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Scientific studies show that it takes 90 days to break an addictive pattern in the mind. Start your own Log of your journey to 90 days! Post here to update us on your status and to give each other chizuk to stay strong!
TOPIC: Let's do it! 639 Views
Re: Let's do it! 25 Sep 2024 13:30 #422312
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yeshtikvah85 wrote on 25 Sep 2024 01:54:
So.... Really embarrassed and feel dumb but I broke my clean days again... This time though it was only one action as opposed to last fall last week that lasted about 48 hours... I was just gonna not post anything because I'm so embarrassed but I think the accountability, encouragement, advice, and constructive criticism are important... I have to listen to what I wrote last time and actually implement to prevent a recurrence, and maybe get a partner/mentor Yasher koach to you on posting instead of hiding away in the comfortable black. An accountability partner/mentor is tremendously helpful. Not someone you just check in with like marking a box. Someone who you can get to know, schmooze with, and feel actually accountable to. An accountability relationship instead of an accountability partner. A tremendous gamechanger for me was 1) getting that accountability relationship and 2) also having that person get notifications from my filter. Keneh lecha chaver and keep on trucking! (Psst. It could that joining the Vaad project would be a nice easy way to find an accountability partner  . ).
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Re: Let's do it! 29 Oct 2024 02:50 #423865
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chosemyshem wrote on 25 Sep 2024 13:30:
Yasher koach to you on posting instead of hiding away in the comfortable black. An accountability partner/mentor is tremendously helpful. Not someone you just check in with like marking a box. Someone who you can get to know, schmooze with, and feel actually accountable to. An accountability relationship instead of an accountability partner. A tremendous gamechanger for me was 1) getting that accountability relationship and 2) also having that person get notifications from my filter. Keneh lecha chaver and keep on trucking! (Psst. It could that joining the Vaad project would be a nice easy way to find an accountability partner . ).Thank you for the encouragement! I got an update that i'll post now as well. I'll check out the vaad project to see what it is. |
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Re: Let's do it! 29 Oct 2024 03:06 #423866
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Hey guys,
hope YT were nice by everyone. In regards to my situation here is my periodical update: 1) I kept on falling recently quite often, and keeping at most 5 days clean or so and then falling again. 2) starting to have a more real conversation with a fellow GYE member that reached out to me in the beginning. We are conversing via email and hope to make some sort of partnership from it. 3) After falling recently as stated above, and my wife finding out shortly thereafter (these days she has her ways to get it out of me and I just dont/cant lie) and obviously getting bothered by it, I decided to do something more extreme which is either dumb or smart I created a Google Sheet (with the help of Google Gemini AI that gave me instructions on how to set it up easily with more automations and less manual work) which has the dates for 90 days starting yesterday and a box to answer each day if I stayed clean or not, and I shared it with my wife which could view it and comment on it too.I feel that this might be an important step to help me short term and to build trust with my wife though it remains to be seen how i'll reach 90 without the pacifier... I guess I did 35 before, but the thought of giving it up for so long. I guess ODAAT helps in a way...
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