basically my phone fell in water and wasn't working for a while so i put my sim in my wife's old phone, and it had open browser, the yetzer horah was so big and i fell, first with watching some soft stuff then it went south, 

but hashem wanted me to know that he loves me, a short while after my child took that phone (is normally a very calm child) had a tentrum and threw it down on the floor and it broke in 2 pieces, and a while later my phone which was in rice for the whole day with no success started working like before!!!!

Ybird wrote on 15 Nov 2021 16:21:

Perhaps He would love you even more if He let it stay broken, or fixed it to the extent where if you typed in an inappropriate site, it would send out an Amber Alert to your entire building as well as your wife's and in-laws and Synagogue! Now that would be "overflowing love!!"

Ybird wrote on 15 Nov 2021 16:17:


Sorry to hear that you fell... 

Let's try an exercise from the "easy peasy method" 

Ask yourself the following questions:

1. What is porn doing for me?

2. Am I actually enjoying it?

3. Do I really need to go through life sabotaging my mind and body?

Trouble wrote on 15 Nov 2021 17:30:

I hope this didnt happan to you, 
LOL

DavidT wrote on 15 Nov 2021 17:50:

i can try but i'm not really that deep thinker

Easy Peasy in a nutshell... 

E- ESCAPE. It’s easy to escape. There is zero sacrifice. You’re just choosing to have a better life, so don’t fear.
A- ADDICTION. Acknowledge you have been addicted and stop blaming yourself. You break the cycle of need, withdrawal, and fix simply by removing brainwashing   and seeing through the illusions.
S- SACRIFICE. There is no sacrifice. Know that porn does absolutely nothing for you. The only thing that’s dying is the big monster and little monster; the two things that have been enslaving you.
Y- YOU. There is nothing wrong with you. You don’t become addicted because of your personality. You become addicted because of the substance and society. You are your own jailer and you have the power to free yourself.
W- WILLPOWER AND WITHDRAWAL. Relying on willpower makes everything harder. Willpower hurts you. Willpower is only when you have a clash of wills; when one side of you wants it and one doesn’t, but in truth, no side of you wants it. When you quit with Easyway, there are no withdrawal pangs. You become free the moment you change your mindset and remove any desire for the fix.
A- ACTION. Don’t wait for a miracle. It’s time to act now. Follow the instructions and you cannot fail to be free. Keep an open mind, and allow logic and common sense in, to replace illusion, and you will NEVER WATCH PORN AGAIN.
Y- YES! Enjoy the thrill of being free. NEVER doubt your decision. You are NOT being deprived or losing a friend. You are DESTROYING a mortal enemy and getting your LIFE back.

DavidT wrote on 15 Nov 2021 17:50:

This idea didn’t work for me… 

btw any reason we are promoting a blog that is against SA etc?

I don’t think there’s any brilliant ideas contained there which the GYE handbook doesn’t have.

Please checkout the handbook and pass it around 

The idea is not to promote any blogs or organizations etc. 
The goal of GYE is just to collect all available ideas and tools for recovery and let the users try and see what works for them. 
I understand your concerns about the 'easy peasy method" but my approach is:

 קבל אמת ממי שאמרו & תוכו אכל, קליפתו זרק

Ybird wrote on 15 Nov 2021 17:56:

God doesn't get involved in my sex-binging. He knows I'm very capable all by myself.

One of the main problems is that while in a low place all the logic of "what am I doing to myself" basically flies out the window. People aren't CHOOSING to go to porn, they just can't control themselves. They know it's wrong while they are doing it.

the key really is to trick the brain ahead of time before it enters the "Self-Control-Mode" phase. But sometimes the situation just twists things around.

polar bear wrote on 16 Nov 2021 03:10:

hi polar bear its freezing outside put on a shawl, your post reminded me what i tought when i fell, exactly the same

Hey YBird! 

BeVeryStrong wrote on 09 Dec 2021 06:12:

hey whats up?
mazel tov to your 70 days, 

mazel tov!!!!!
i reached 50 clean days!
thank you hashem for keeping me pure and to all of you guys, i would never got to that number without all of your help