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Re: Square one 06 Mar 2021 18:34 #364827

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I'm no GYE veteran, and still have lots of issues of my own, but I'd say just let them pass. Thoughts of something we spent a lot of time and energy in don't just go away in a second.
There are probably ways to work on them, but they definitely don't go away in a second.

Re: Square one 06 Mar 2021 22:02 #364834

Day 6
BH I'm clean today. Motsei shabbos was a bit better, my mind cleared up a bit. 

Re: Square one 07 Mar 2021 04:14 #364846

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Keep it up buddy 
I am a bochur with a passion for meaning and truth, searching to remain clean and live a holy and fulfilling life.

If you are reading this-you have a friend in me.
Feel free to PM me and I'll share my offline contact information, so we can call and text. I'd be honored if you'd trust me with your story and promise to support you in any way I possibly can.
I've been on GYE for over 7 years. "I may walk slow, but I never walk back" (-Abraham Lincoln?).
(For the background and meaning of my username- see Tanya chapter 15).


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Re: Square one 07 Mar 2021 21:42 #364920

Day 7
One week!
BH today was clean, but lusting and feeding my fantasies too much

Re: Square one 08 Mar 2021 09:21 #364958

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Re: Square one 08 Mar 2021 13:39 #364968

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Amazing!
Keep it up!
do you have a plan in place when lust/fantasy occurs?

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Square one 08 Mar 2021 16:48 #364984

To be honest no, which sounds stupid when I write it down. Mainly I'm trying to be preventative and avoid situations where I'll feel vunderable. Do you have any recommendations on how to formulate a plan?
Last Edit: 08 Mar 2021 18:09 by looking_to_improve.

Re: Square one 08 Mar 2021 21:11 #365012

Day 8
BH today was clean

Re: Square one 08 Mar 2021 23:36 #365026

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8 days of solid winning!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Square one 08 Mar 2021 23:39 #365027

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Rabosai, I think we need a major celebration lkovid R' Looking_to_improve's major win!!!

Re: Square one 09 Mar 2021 06:51 #365073

Striving Avreich wrote on 08 Mar 2021 23:39:
Rabosai, I think we need a major celebration lkovid R' Looking_to_improve's major win!!!

Thank you, although I'm not sure what the cause for celebration is

Re: Square one 09 Mar 2021 07:00 #365075

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Looking_to_improve wrote on 08 Mar 2021 16:48:
To be honest no, which sounds stupid when I write it down. Mainly I'm trying to be preventative and avoid situations where I'll feel vunderable. Do you have any recommendations on how to formulate a plan?

Great template in the smart recovery section from menachemgye 
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
העבר עיני מראות שוא, בדרכך חינו (תהלים קיט, לז)
PM me for my phone number

Re: Square one 09 Mar 2021 16:32 #365105

A few questions for everyone here (I might start a dedicated thread for this)

1) Have you spoken to a friend about your struggles?
2)How did you start the conversation?
3)Was it beneficial to either of you?
4)Is he someone who struggles, and if not, could he relate to you?

Thanks for your help

Re: Square one 09 Mar 2021 20:27 #365122

Day 9

BH clean today

Re: Square one 10 Mar 2021 22:55 #365201

Day 10
BH another good day
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