HappyYid wrote on 16 Mar 2021 13:01:
Lou wrote on 16 Mar 2021 03:46:
Without getting into hashkafa and halacha etc isn't it scary to use your wife's tablet for that? Aren't you afraid you may not cover your tracks well that one time and you will be caught? This is obviously not the real solution to the problem,but perhaps that can serve as a deterrent until you figure out an eitza..
Hatzlocha!
You're right I should be scared. But really I'm not because I used secret mode on a different browser wife uses...and she is really not tech savvy and very easy to cover my tracks. But maybe I should convince myself that she actually might see...
I also thought I was covering my tracks and for almost two years I did (while married). Then about 3 months ago I was caught by wife twice. It was very traumatic. I am very tech savy and my wife isn't so I totally thought I had it covered. It caused us lots of pain, stress and tension. My wife saw some of the disgusting and abominable videos and pictures I was seeing and was rightfully repulsed by it. She has told me that she is still haunted sometimes by what she has seen.
The YH tricks us in to thinking that we can cover out tracks and it will be fine:
- Are we sure we can cover our tracks? What if your wife needs to use the tablet while you are in the middle of "using it"? What if your family member needs to go to the hospital in middle and you don't have time to "clean up"?
- Even if we will be able to cover our tracks, is that what we want? Do want we want to remain "safely" in that world?
The embarrassment which potentially may occur when requesting a password to put on pails in comparison to her finding something on there that you don't want her to see.
Also, with regards to ways to tell her, you can speak to your rov and ask him if he thinks you should put a password on the tablet (he'll probably say yes) and then ask what she thinks and tell her what the rov said.