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Overcoming challenges

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Re: Overcoming challenges 13 Jan 2021 04:38 #361197

Zedj Current streak: 171 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 424 Karma: 24	50 days clean Thank you all for the encouragement! I know the olom are biteing their nails wondering if I passed..... B"H I passed 1/3rd down! As you can imagine the stress levels are slightly below average..... With Hashems help we will continue trudging forward one day at a time.
	One who has given up hope is without a G‑d. One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 13 Jan 2021 04:45 #361201

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Zedj wrote on 12 Jan 2021 05:09:

49 days clean

BH I'm clean!

Tomorrow morning I'll be be having a test on Baser Vecholov....so off to bed I go.

BEZH tommorow you all can call me "Rab"
With Hashems help all will be good.

Wishing you all well

Hatzlocha on your Bechina! As you just went through a Sefiras haomer(49 days) there is no doubt that you are now really ready to mekabel the Torah and do amazing on your test.

The amount of pressure and "fear".....it was pretty close to matan Torah

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 13 Jan 2021 04:47 #361202

Zedj Current streak: 171 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 424 Karma: 24	excellence wrote on 12 Jan 2021 06:08: Seeing what a hard worker you are, I'm positive you will do well! Hatzlocho Rabo, Excellence Oh, btw, in my eyes you already are a 'Rabbi'. Think from tomorrow I will be calling you הגאון הצדיק ראש כל בני הגולה! Halevey! One day I'll be deserving of such high caliber titles.
	One who has given up hope is without a G‑d. One who sees hope in each day is already free Last Edit: 13 Jan 2021 04:47 by Zedj.

Re: Overcoming challenges 13 Jan 2021 04:50 #361204

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Zedj wrote on 12 Jan 2021 05:09:

When you will be a Rav and the yetzer tries to entice you to sin, tell him "I will NOT do that!" Make it such a strong "not", it will be a "not bar not!"

Hatzlacha!

Love this!!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 14 Jan 2021 05:53 #361299

Zedj Current streak: 171 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 424 Karma: 24	51 days strong. BH was a good day. I had a strong flashback to the olden times this morning. Apparently...it's normal. The battle of deception has become (i think) alittle easier. I hope it continues this way. Wishing you all well[spoiler][/spoiler]
	One who has given up hope is without a G‑d. One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 14 Jan 2021 07:16 #361305

Ish MiGrodno Current streak: 174 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 256 Karma: 24	Zedj, While anyone would acknowledge that passing a test on Yoreh Deah equals success (and it it is! ....mazel tov!), us folks on GYE know what the greatest measuring stick of gadlus is. (and it isn't even close : ) You're the man! Ish Migrodno
	ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳] Perhaps you can find chizuk from my thread at guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/356161-Intro Feel free to reach out to me at jackz90dys@gmail.com

Re: Overcoming challenges 15 Jan 2021 05:48 #361371

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52 days clean

With Hashems help I am 52 days clean.

What can I say?

I continue to amaze myself that it is possible to control the beast.

I think having a firm "NO I'm not crossing that line" really helps in the hand to hand combat.

Also what has really helped me is
if your in a situation that you have an opportunity to fall, you have to slow down the process from the "thought" to actually acting out. It gives time to ask yourself if this is something you really want to do.

So no matter what happens, at least you know your not a robot....the choice will be in your hands.

Excuse my unsolicited advice.

Wishing you all well

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 15 Jan 2021 10:42 #361382

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Zedj wrote on 15 Jan 2021 05:48:

52 days clean

With Hashems help I am 52 days clean.

What can I say?

I continue to amaze myself that it is possible to control the beast.

I think having a firm "NO I'm not crossing that line" really helps in the hand to hand combat.

Also what has really helped me is
if your in a situation that you have an opportunity to fall, you have to slow down the process from the "thought" to actually acting out. It gives time to ask yourself if this is something you really want to do.

So no matter what happens, at least you know your not a robot....the choice will be in your hands.

Excuse my unsolicited advice.

Wishing you all well

Please give advice buddy.

Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned

My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: Overcoming challenges 15 Jan 2021 20:51 #361404

Zedj Current streak: 171 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 424 Karma: 24	53 days clean Wishing you all an easy shabbos. Wishing you all the best!
	One who has given up hope is without a G‑d. One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 15 Jan 2021 20:58 #361406

anothershot Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Expert Boarder Posts: 123 Karma: 7	Amazing! Keep going strong brother!
	My threads: Giving it another shot One step at a time Daily (I hope) Excerpt from Sefer Zos Brisi I am going to beat this monster one step at a time... One day at a time!

Re: Overcoming challenges 17 Jan 2021 02:16 #361420

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54 days clean

Shabbos was really nice BH.

Every Friday night for the past few weeks.......I had a vivid fantasy dream.
It's the weirdest thing.
Anyone here a mumcha in these things? Any kabbalists here?

They say dreams are 1/60th prophesy....
I'd much rather pass on the prophecies though.

I've been told to completely ignore the dreams/fantasies so this post is in itself a violation of that.

Warning: Spoiler!

Wishing you all a gut voch

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 17 Jan 2021 04:09 #361427

Hashem Help Me Current streak: 1611 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 2664	As long as you are not in violation of the Torah, don't beat yourself up. Waking up wet after a dream is not geshmak, so even though we advise ignoring these situations, you can share your feelings about them.
	Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: Overcoming challenges 17 Jan 2021 17:09 #361448

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You are always an inspiration and I am enjoying following your journey. I do not know much about dreams. I can only share my experiences. Many times people sleep longer or later on Friday night /Shabbos morning. This can lead to more vivid dreams especially if you wake up and realize you can sleep later. The sleep for the next while can have very vivid dreams.
Just follow the advice of the Mumchim/Rabanim regarding these things. I am just sharing as a friend.

Re: Overcoming challenges 18 Jan 2021 03:40 #361477

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55 days clean

@lou thank you for your thoughts on my predicament.
I thought of something similar that can play a role.
It's possible that during the week my conscious is sort of suppressed and on shabbos, Friday night perhaps I'm way more relaxed and alot more loose..
Not sure if that makes.

I've started going through old threads from the begining of GYE, there are some real treasures.

Unfortunately I didn't save the authors name but here is something I thought was interesting:

" As tzit-tzit remind the hands to perform mitzvot, so to do the peyyot remind my eyes to obey mitzvot!"

Anyone know if there is a source for this?

Wishing you all well!

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Overcoming challenges 19 Jan 2021 04:52 #361546

Zedj Current streak: 171 days NOW ONLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 424 Karma: 24	56 days clean 10 minutes to 12:00 then we activate.....zen mode. Keeping it one day at a time. Wishing you all the best
	One who has given up hope is without a G‑d. One who sees hope in each day is already free