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Re: On the shoulders of those before me 25 Dec 2016 21:34 #301131

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 I actually heard of a recent study that says that flossing is bad.go figure.
i had a roommate in yeshiva that only brushed in the morning to refresh his mouth.and he was a real junki (jelly beans, licorice, handfuls of candy corn etc etc)
To this day he hasn't had a single cavity.i guess dental health has more to do with DNA that we think

Re: On the shoulders of those before me 27 Dec 2016 04:38 #301245

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114 days. 
I have been fantasizing about my wife. On the one hand lust is lust. On the other hand, to be quite honest we are married 10 years & I don't recall fantasizing about her ever before. It feels like I'm finally having normal and natural sexual feelings. On the other hand, lust is lust.
I don't know. 
This is unrelated to the dental story. 

Re: On the shoulders of those before me 27 Dec 2016 13:38 #301268

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LifneiHashem wrote on 27 Dec 2016 04:38:
114 days. 
I have been fantasizing about my wife. On the one hand lust is lust. On the other hand, to be quite honest we are married 10 years & I don't recall fantasizing about her ever before. It feels like I'm finally having normal and natural sexual feelings. On the other hand, lust is lust.
I don't know. 
This is unrelated to the dental story. 

That's a great share. See? Being clean opens up issues may times. I heard yesterday "I now have issues in areas that I didn't even know I had areas before." 

My experience is that speaking with my Higher Power can provide me with answers many times.
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Re: On the shoulders of those before me 27 Dec 2016 20:06 #301309

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I took it to mean that I could avoid the dentist for a while and not suffer too badly for it :D

Re: On the shoulders of those before me 27 Dec 2016 20:35 #301313

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Thanks Gibbor, but I'd really like to move past the dental hygiene discussion. The marshal and (undisclosed) nimshal aren't productive. 
I certainly welcome your thoughts on my most recent post. 

Re: On the shoulders of those before me 27 Dec 2016 20:45 #301314

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Thanks Shlomo. Can I ask you what is the reason you don't say "Hashem"? I understand that He may be referred to as Higher Power in 12 steps literature or elsewhere, but I figured it's just keeping things non-denominational. Why the need for that term among fellow observant Jews? I'm not trying to be combative, just want to understand if there's a reason. 

Re: On the shoulders of those before me 28 Dec 2016 01:28 #301335

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LifneiHashem wrote on 27 Dec 2016 04:38:
114 days. 
I have been fantasizing about my wife. On the one hand lust is lust. On the other hand, to be quite honest we are married 10 years & I don't recall fantasizing about her ever before. It feels like I'm finally having normal and natural sexual feelings. On the other hand, lust is lust.
I don't know. 
This is unrelated to the dental story. 

Yes, lust is lust, but it's a good positive step.
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Re: On the shoulders of those before me 28 Dec 2016 01:36 #301337

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Isn't a husband supposed to lust his wife.
as long as she's the only one in body and mind so to speak??

Re: On the shoulders of those before me 28 Dec 2016 01:50 #301339

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Meier wrote on 28 Dec 2016 01:36:
Isn't a husband supposed to lust his wife.
as long as she's the only one in body and mind so to speak??

No.
 heI is supposed to desire and want his wife.
Lustin' means he is fantasizin' and somewhat out of control.
This is especially true for those of us who are addicts.
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Re: On the shoulders of those before me 28 Dec 2016 02:14 #301342

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Thanks for the clarification.
on 2nd thought.I should've asked Google.
Your description is on wikki.

Re: On the shoulders of those before me 28 Dec 2016 03:00 #301344

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Meier wrote on 28 Dec 2016 02:14:
Thanks for the clarification.
on 2nd thought.I should've asked Google.
Your description is on wikki.

II didn't look it up first.

My pleasure.
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Re: On the shoulders of those before me 02 Jan 2017 23:39 #301885

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When the peacock spider spots a female, he lifts 2 legs and sticks his abdomen into the air while puffing out the flaps on the side of his abdomen (looks like a peacock).  He then proceeds to do a bizarre courtship dance with his legs up and colorful abdomen raised and vibrating. If the female is impressed she will allow the male to mount her. More often she remains unimpressed by his overtures and proceeds to devour him. 

Re: On the shoulders of those before me 03 Jan 2017 03:49 #301923

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LifneiHashem wrote on 02 Jan 2017 23:39:
When the peacock spider spots a female, he lifts 2 legs and sticks his abdomen into the air while puffing out the flaps on the side of his abdomen (looks like a peacock).  He then proceeds to do a bizarre courtship dance with his legs up and colorful abdomen raised and vibrating. If the female is impressed she will allow the male to mount her. More often she remains unimpressed by his overtures and proceeds to devour him. 

II like this guy.

What a lesson!
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Re: On the shoulders of those before me 03 Jan 2017 04:00 #301925

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I don't get it.
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Re: On the shoulders of those before me 03 Jan 2017 04:10 #301932

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Shlomo24 wrote on 03 Jan 2017 04:00:
I don't get it.

I'll let the mechaber explain first.
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