Hi all,
I have been having tons of ups and downs lately. However, I am committed now to get to 90 days without slips. My most recent addiction was to slipping. I would look at things that would possibly lead me to see inappropriate pictures. I am a curiosity addict. Good luck to me. I know I can do it.

If anyone has any advice for me i'm taking suggestions

shua73 wrote:


Welcome

I guess you are "curious" to know what people say.

Yes I as well have done this slip thing. Looking at certain things and saying technically its only a slip at worst. This is playing with the Y"H.
If you don't stay away from this kind of thing it will eventually lead to a fall guaranteed.
One thing I learned was that curiosity-looking around for interesting things, even in mutar things is a bad idea. Such an attitude will then overlap to looking at assur things. Don't be interested in what is around you if it is not necessary.
In general, learn to be quite strict with seeing anything remotely not tznuisdik. 'cause one thing leads to another and falls are only a tap away.
You know, us guys came into this world with a natural leaning towards lust. Nebach we then developed terrible habits and compulsions. Many call it simply an illnesss(sickness)
Yet, so many who have been this way, now continuously live daily without engaging in this kind of activity.

They have proven it can be done.
Be'emes, it has to be done.

Failure is not an option!

Yes I am. I feel its different than some other peoples struggles so i am wondering if anybody has the same struggles and their advice.

Re: yirasshamaim
Just thats what makes me who I am. thats why i'm successful. i've been asking questions even as a little kid about anything and everything. It's how I learn. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. It just needs to have an appropriate place.

But otherwise I agree with you 100%

When we are little tikes we are told to look and question. That is healthy and we can learn a lot.
Now when we are big boys and the hormones are running wild we got to modify our approach somewhat.
Better to give up a little on the education to save our souls

Thanks for sharing with us!

Hatzlacha!

shua73 wrote:


I hate to burst your bubble, but we are all the same here. We each have our own flavor, but we all have the same basic problem, trying to control our lusts.

I too am a very curious person. I like to learn about everything and anything. But there is a vast difference to being curious how you go from a cotton plant to clothing to what is that girl over there wearing.

We tell ourselves all sorts of lies to justify our lust. One of my favorites is I used to tell myself that girls are works of art and I am just a connoisseur appreciating their beauty. That I can tell you was a load of garbage, but I believed it.

The way to succeed is to wade through the piles of poop we shovel onto the path to cloud our judgement and see the truth of our action and motivations.

Good luck. Much hatzlacha from Hashem on your journey.

MBJ wrote:


This was amazingly hilarious and so true! Thanks for being as subtle as a 2x4 to the back of the skull!

Behatzluche Shua! If these other guys can do it, so can we! We're all wading through the poop together

well said guys!

curiosity is something good as long its in the right direction...

Random question. How do I get the text of the person I am replying to in my reply (meaning the gray box on top with whatever I am commenting on in it)?

shua73 wrote:
Click the "quote" button

Now that I am counting "slips" as falls, it's unreal how many times I want to slip but don't. There were so many things that I did just to possibly slip in the past. But so far so good