i am watching movies sometimes and that help me relaxing a little bit the only problem is that very often you find some shmutz in movies that could "wake up" the addiction!

should i stop movies completely? (it could be very hard sometimes)
or there is a way to do it? like watching with someone??

I have been wondering the same thing since I started GYE. Hopefully someone can give us some advice. It's not just shmutz, it also just actresses who can turn me on. It's like walking down the street for me. Even by movies and TV shows that have nothing bad or women scantily dressed. Anyway, keep it up. Hopefully this can make for some great and informational discussion. KOP

When I joined GYE I stopped internet altogether. I don't even search for the weather. It helps, because sometimes you're watching something clean and one thing leads to the next...

It relaxes me to watch movies as well, and interestingly enough, I actually joined GYE to quit my movie watching. ('Guard Your Eyes' can mean anything) Once I was here and found out what GYE was really about, I figured 'Hey, I have an acting out problem too, might as well take care of that as well'. So here I am - act out clean and movie free.

As for the relaxing. There is none for me anymore.

Life starts at the end of your comfort zone.

Just thinking...
I also have some sort of freeing my mind through TV episodes although I can't say I do it alot but from time to time I can become glued to other things on youtube as well,
I stepped away from Movies a while ago (7+ years) because of the distraction it made me have, and also I was a different person in that time when I was watching them (doing crazy moves to mimic or use language, all subconsciously) just not me so I wasn't a addicted and I did take some steps to stay away, (Alot because became more busy, Or I took alternatives like youtube)
But in your case I think you should start handling the issue by let's say watching with your spouse together if that's an option or some sort of working with the problem than away from it,
And by the way I don't have enough ink here.... but I once spoke to a friend which was OTD same age as me (under 30) and he was doing all this stuff but a while ago he was amazingly bringing out to me a point what happens when you start thinking that this actor that you so look up on and think about..... and sometimes you feel you want to be him/her in whatever situation... is so full of nothing as they themselves can be on the news for so many different negativity including Divorces/ Drug addicts, Fighting/punching (sometime there own wife), Sex offending, and so on, and that all comes to show how they are in real life that you so much want to be like...... and it looks like everyday there is another story, I probably didn't bring it out all the way but the idea is here as I said I don't have enough ink,

If they trigger you, don't watch em!

polar bear wrote:


I like it!!!

Can someone tell me how to add a quote to your signature?

Come to the GYE 10pm EST call to shmooze, get truthful and relax. Or just listen to us talk about our lives; it's much more entertaining than fiction.

Go to "My personal homepage."
Look for "Your features and settings."
Click on "Forums Settings"
Click on "Profile information" tab
You will see a bunch of fields.
The "Personal text" field is for a short slogan, message, or personal description that will appear below where it says "_______ Boarder under your Avatar.
The "Signature" field is anything you want in your signature. Have fun getting that all lined up the way you want it. I think I spent an hour on it. If you want to link something, you can just paste the link there. If you want to make a hyper link (or whatever it's called) ask Cords for the format.

I got it from one of GYEs 'doses of inspiration'.

I have the same issue with movies & tv shows, I think the only solution is to stay away. Easier said then done. As far as relaxing goes the best I have been able to do is mindfulness exersizes which don't always work. May we all have success.

I haven't managed to connect the dots yet, but whenever I 'fell' to watching a movie, a show - I would have a harder time with the 'acting out' struggle. Even if was a 'clean' show.

This is one of my biggest challenges nowadays.

When I had a long sober period, I was also clean from playing online games and watching movies.

The dots are pretty clear for me. The main idea as to why I love watching movies is that they are exciting, they are 1-2 hours of adrenaline, thrill, and suspense. They give me something that I feel lacking in my real life, I don't find my life exciting enough, I expect more!

The outcomes are the same as well, I waste time on something completely nonconstructive at best and usually they are even destructive (violence, romance, crime, immorality, etc). I end up spending much more time on them then I "plan" on spending and they interfere with my schedule.

All that just feeds my nonacceptance of life, my obsession that I can do something to make my life "better". It directly conflicts with the idea of acceptance to Hashem's design of my life.

I know that it goes hand in hand, but.......

This is for sure something that I need to give up, I need help finding the willingness to do it though.....

Well, there you go, I just deleted all my downloaded movies (except for one that has no sexual triggers...I guess I really am addicted)

I know that I can always get them again, but for now, that is certainly a start.

Thanks for starting this thread!!

Have a great Shabbos!!

Pidaini wrote:


Heck of a post!

R Noach Weinberg ZTZL used to ask people if their life was so boring that they need to watch a film.
Sobriety and sanity has been the most entertaining immersive (and suspenseful!) journey for me.

what GYE 10pm EST call are you referring to? i didnt know of such a thing.please respond thanx