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Re: Raba Emunatecha 28 Jul 2015 17:24 #260445

do I actually need professional help?

Re: Raba Emunatecha 28 Jul 2015 17:49 #260447

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Your worst enemy here is depondency and agitation. Your best friend is trusting in Hashem. An excersize that I do when I am feeling overwhelmed is I start thanking. Lust can only exist in a place of selfishness. A place where everyone owes you something. When you realize how much you actually owe people and how you owe Hashem infinitely and He really owes you nothing, you can step out of the selfishness that drives the lust. At least that works for me.

As for the issue of society's warped sense of mortality, remember you are a son of Avraham Ha'Ivri. He is called that because he stood on one side (ever) in believing in Hashem and every other person in the world stood on the other side. He knew the truth and was willing to die for that truth even though every other person in the world thought he was crazy. That is our job too. The entire world may say that masturbation is healthy and that promiscuity is normal. But we know different. We know that truth and to hell with the rest of them.
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Re: Raba Emunatecha 28 Jul 2015 19:44 #260467

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GoldstarNGemara wrote:
I'm angry and frustrated. and confused. how could this be such a real addiction?! how could I be addicted to something? and why something like this-that is so accessible everywhere I go. and what about other the people who condone it or even promote it? what do I make of the messages that its normal and fine? what do I tell the girl I want to marry? why do I only feel miserable about it now? why do my guts feel like they weigh 10X their normal weight? Why theBAD WORD REMOVED is this such a overwhelming parasite on my life. why theBAD WORD REMOVED do I let pornographic imagery consume my mental space? I could send it away a thousand times but it always comes back! how am i supposed to feel about this never ending war, where defeat is always around the corner. Where is my neshama when I need it?


I can't answer all of your questions, but there are a bunch of us here.
Have you spoken to a real person about your issues?
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Re: Raba Emunatecha 28 Jul 2015 19:45 #260468

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GoldstarNGemara wrote:
do I actually need professional help?


Let's ask a more basic question perhaps: what help have you been receivin' so far?
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Re: Raba Emunatecha 29 Jul 2015 01:32 #260476

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Thank you for you share, Goldstar!
Much Hatzlacha!

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--"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain
--"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added.
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Re: Raba Emunatecha 05 Aug 2015 17:44 #260965

cordnoy wrote:
GoldstarNGemara wrote:
do I actually need professional help?


Let's ask a more basic question perhaps: what help have you been receivin' so far?


Chizuk emails, foruming, taphsic method (although that was out the window for awhile), and brief conversations on the website chat... I have a good friend who is seeking proffessional help for this same area (i mean his life circumstances are so different from mine so there really isn't a comparison) but it makes me ask myself this kind of question, do I also need professional help. can i do this without it? I want to say yes!

Re: Raba Emunatecha 05 Aug 2015 18:05 #260970

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GoldstarNGemara wrote:
cordnoy wrote:
GoldstarNGemara wrote:
do I actually need professional help?


Let's ask a more basic question perhaps: what help have you been receivin' so far?


Chizuk emails, foruming, taphsic method (although that was out the window for awhile), and brief conversations on the website chat... I have a good friend who is seeking proffessional help for this same area (i mean his life circumstances are so different from mine so there really isn't a comparison) but it makes me ask myself this kind of question, do I also need professional help. can i do this without it? I want to say yes!


Seems to me that this question is botherin' you, and although I do not know your entire history, it is likely that you need on some level to verbalize your issues to another....either on a phone call or conference, or to a mentor or a group or a professional or a mashgiach. I do see that you don't wanna, and that is understood, but you just might then remain with this burnin' question: Do i need to talk to someone?

either way....b'hatzlachah
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