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TOPIC: Chizuk 13739 Views
Re: Chizuk 19 Apr 2015 07:52 #252586
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Re: Chizuk 19 Apr 2015 14:41 #252595
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"To suffer in silence is to suffer alone.
To suffer alone...........well, no one should have to do that." My Threads guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/251355-Chizuk?limit=15&start=45 |
Re: Chizuk 19 Apr 2015 14:42 #252596
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"To suffer in silence is to suffer alone.
To suffer alone...........well, no one should have to do that." My Threads guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/251355-Chizuk?limit=15&start=45 |
Re: Chizuk 21 Apr 2015 02:50 #252723
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"To suffer in silence is to suffer alone.
To suffer alone...........well, no one should have to do that." My Threads guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/251355-Chizuk?limit=15&start=45 |
Re: Chizuk 21 Apr 2015 04:06 #252740
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Re: Chizuk 27 Apr 2015 19:04 #253234
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"To suffer in silence is to suffer alone.
To suffer alone...........well, no one should have to do that." My Threads guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/251355-Chizuk?limit=15&start=45 |
Re: Chizuk 27 Apr 2015 20:57 #253252
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Much Hatzlacha!
My Threads: Glad to be here Don't slip it hurts Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My! --"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה" --"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain --"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added. --You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging. |
Re: Chizuk 14 May 2015 03:13 #254651
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"To suffer in silence is to suffer alone.
To suffer alone...........well, no one should have to do that." My Threads guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/251355-Chizuk?limit=15&start=45 |
Re: Chizuk 14 May 2015 05:17 #254662
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Much Hatzlacha!
My Threads: Glad to be here Don't slip it hurts Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My! --"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה" --"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain --"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added. --You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging. |
Re: Chizuk 14 May 2015 11:42 #254673
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My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads: Mikvah Night - Page 1, Page 2, Page 3, Last Page https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/210029-Tryin  Warning: Spoiler!Quote from the chevra: "Is Cordnoy truly a Treasure Island pirate from the Southern Seas?" MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED. |
Re: Chizuk 14 May 2015 17:31 #254700
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"To suffer in silence is to suffer alone.
To suffer alone...........well, no one should have to do that." My Threads guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/251355-Chizuk?limit=15&start=45 |
Re: Chizuk 07 Jun 2015 23:46 #256301
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TriggerMeNot88 wrote:
So a couple of nights ago I had this talk with my wife about love without lust I was tellin her what my therapist said about it how SA says an addict has used and abused the privilege to lust for his wife. So we talked about it for a while, then it hit me, I've read about it, but I felt it that night. I was gripped with this fear, a realization that if I continue like this I will never experience that forbidden ecstasy again. I literally got sick to the stomach. I was pacing the floor like a mad man. My wife kept asking if I'm ok. I didn't know what to do. I thought a lot about my resolve to do this. I kept telling myself about all the pain that comes along with that pleasure. Thought a lot about my wife and kids(Hashem should bench them). After about half an hour I calmed down. Whew! Well thanks for listening. Il try and post more about me. It helps. Wow. Just read this post. So beautiful. Because I remember going through the same thing once, in ~1992. I had (of course) just finished porning and mastirbating myself somewhere and was in the street in front of a shul and the thought came to me clearly of a bochur who was killed in a car accident on a holiday and I felt so sorry for him, wished I could help him out...you know, that special spiritually sensitive way we often feel soon after the ___ hits the fan and we feel sorry for acting out our lusts and feel we never, ever EVER want to go back...well, I stood and gave up schmutz in this boy's zechus right then and there! .... .... It wasn't two minutes, till I was gripped by this horrible panic you describe: What? Never feel it again? That sweet softness, the colors on the paper, the scene with that stuff that I love so much?! How can it be? How will I ever survive?! And I promptly gave up the idea of giving it up, even for this poor, dead boy. I was crestfallen - and carried that shame with me for the next 5 years until I was ready to surrender the fight and give up my right to lust, in other words, joined SA and attended meetings, got a sponsor, shared openly in meetings (there were only two frum Jews in SA in my town back then and they were - of course - both crazy  ) and got sober; and b"H have not needed to have sex with myself or with anyone else since, one day at a time and the easy way.You have far more support than I did then. Your wife, of course, will not save you from anything. But you are not alone in recovery and not even alone at home. That's a brocha. I was alone at home, and my wife hated SA and my neetings and international conferences and frum SA shabbatons, and everything about them...yet today she admits that all the good in our life grows from my sobriety. She once told me (around 11th anniversary in SA and 22nd in marriage) that the two happiest days of her life are the day we got married and the day I got sober (even though felt she hated me deeply at that time...[not the married one, the sober one, knucklehead!]) - and that the day I got sober was the greater of the two. Things change if you stick with the right things. |
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"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."
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Re: Chizuk 08 Jun 2015 02:42 #256304
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Much Hatzlacha!
My Threads: Glad to be here Don't slip it hurts Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My! --"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה" --"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain --"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added. --You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging. |
Re: Chizuk 14 Jun 2015 03:36 #256763
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"To suffer in silence is to suffer alone.
To suffer alone...........well, no one should have to do that." My Threads guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/251355-Chizuk?limit=15&start=45 |
Re: Chizuk 14 Jun 2015 04:18 #256765
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Much Hatzlacha!
My Threads: Glad to be here Don't slip it hurts Lions & Tigers & Internet, Oh My! --"ולא המדרש עיקר, אלא המעשה" --"To promise not to do a thing is the surest way in the world to make a body want to go and do that very thing." Mark Twain --"If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely, or if when drinking (or lusting), you have little control over the amount you take, you are probably alcoholic (or sexaholic)." AA Big Book P. 45. Parenthesis added. --You hit rock bottom when you decide to stop digging. |