Gibor wrote:

If you agree that the issue is your thoughts during the day, why do you concern yourself with what happens at night, when you're sleeping and have no control? There's probably a good mashal for this, but it escapes me at the moment.
You know what the root of the problem is. Try to work on that. Don't worry about the symptoms that come along.

Chill, take a deep breath. Just concentrate on today even right now!

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gibor wrote (which scares me a bit, because that only means the YH is gathering his forces and waiting for the best time to attack).

Hi Gibor i have been reading your forum . Wish you Hatzlacha on your journey.

I don't think that fearing the YH is productive. you may be giving him much power than what it really has. making changes in how you will handle your life from no on is very productive . by staying calm while trusting Hashem to dismantle the YH while you give Him your worries, stresses , and all that hurts. By accepting calmly whatever life throws at you and releasing it to Hashems care. Moshe Rabenu said :ה ילחם לכם ואתם תחרישון Bene Yisrael were in a state of horror when they saw Paraoh approaching by Yam Suf . and he said you keep quite and calm while Hashem will take care of those bad forces . If you are fighting by yourself , there is what to fear from the YH . but you are staying still and quite and Letting G.od. Behatzlacha !! and welcome to this wonderful site

oops i meant Hi Vkum and welcome

thanks everyone for your support and for the links. I appreciate it. I have been so busy lately that I haven't even had time to come here and answer. But, please keep on writing it really helps alot!

newaction, it's a great attitude. But it's easier said than done. I get how that works before going to battle. But, once your in the heat of battle, I don't see how I could possibly do that...

Anyway, BH so far so good. I've matched my previous streak without too many challenges. G-d willing, it will continue this way. Forever, one day at a time.

Gibor
And thats exactly why we take it a day at a time. You're right. Looking at recovery as a massive entity is REALLY overwhelming but we don't need to. One day at a time works great!

IF you practise staying calm throughout the day, when times are good, then what times are not as good, it is easier to stay calm because that is your natural reaction!

Stop underestimating yourself. You have incredible potential. Take a deep breath and concentrate on what you can do NOW!

BH day 24!! I can't remember the last time, I've been clean for this long! I can only chalk it up to all of your support and help. (being busy with the pre-Rosh Hashonah rush doesn't hurt either:) ) All of your support and advice has been a big help, more than you know.

What are some tips to stay motivated? Right now, it isn't an issue, but I am worried that with time, the old mantras become stale.

- I'm staying clean forever, one day at a time.

Gibor wrote:


Sorry I never responded back, but Big Moish (above) said what I was gonna say.
I wouldn't mess with him if I were you.

Gibor wrote:


Thanks

It's probably some sort of lusting as well, but if your focus is on her and not yourself, let us chalk up that 'selfish pleasure' as enjoyment and bonding and love, etc., and we will not be too concerned about it.

Keep up the good work and may God bless you with continued success....one day at a time.

30 days and counting!! B"H I can't believe it's been a month already. It was a little tough on Shabbos, I think I slipped a little in terms of looking at my wife with lust. Plus, I was walking in the street and there some not-so-tznius ladies... But it stopped there, so BH I am still clean.

KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK AND KOMT!!!!!

HEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPP! I almost slipped just now. I had a big fight with the wife today about ... (it's only been almost two weeks, am I really asking too much? but she's not in the mood and would rather spend time on her phone)
I figured out a way to get around my internet filter and typed in.... and as it was loading I closed it and came here. What should I do??? I know the YH is coming back (even on a fast day, that bastard has no limits!)... I don't want to ruin everything (again). Any advice is welcome on how to keep him away

WHOAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

DEEEEEEEEP BREEEAAATHHH!!!!! IN AND OUT!

thanks, but I don't think breathing is going to help

It sure will! Because it calms you down! Right now you are on a high, a lust high. And you are going crazy! Your mind is twirling right now!

You need to take a chill pill! No, not drugs. But a good ole deep breath!