Hi laughing man.

How about having a set time to talk to some one once a week, regardless of the inconvenience this once a week meeting might be.

For example- 5:00a.m. Israel time every Wednesday.

This is a small bit of mesiras nefesh to pay for such vital support.

Believe it or not 5 am is still not good as i am busy helping my wife help the kids get ready for school

I have alot of random 5 minute breaks throughout the day ...m9stly when im waiting or on a bus.....and i do try to talk with the few friends i still trust but i dont involve them either ....cause they simply cant help me with this issue in particular

דאגה בלב איש, ישיחנה לאחרים
Doesn't really matter if they can help or not, sharing helps you.
Hatzlocha

laughingman wrote:


Kudos to someone for startin' this conversation again.

Mr. Laughin' man...you don't even share on this thread.
you've been around almost the longest, and we don't even know what you struggle with.
Is it too much Diet Coke like the rest of us?
Perhaps it is that allergic reaction we get when the tags of our undershirts ruffle our skin?

In all seriousness, you sound like you're dealin' with a lot of heavy stuff.
That bein' the case, it is even more incumbent upon you to reach out.

and my apologies, but the excuses above are simply b.s. (and many of them that I use myself). I personally have relationships with people in israel. Others do as well. There are many phone conferences, but even if not, there are many nice guys in Israel as well (I don't know any, but I'm sure there's gotta be one or two), and in South Africa, Portugal, yes Romania and Ukraine as well, England and more.

So listen please to the advice of the fellows....find someone to talk to...please.

thanks

b'hatzlachah

I struggle with severe anxiety .....its a chemical thing to some extent ...

I also struggle with lust addiction ....particularly visual ....and some m******* .....i also struggle with a past full of mistakes and errors that each on its own is the largest and smallest but are together the sum of their parts ......while at the same time its not ALL my fault .....there were many who set me back intentionally ...some for biased reasons .....im not making this up.....soo tired

Anxiety can be bad enough without aggravating factors. The 12 steps help us clean house, make amends for our past mistakes and misdeeds and live an emotionally sober life. This way we can face life and its challenges with confidence and pride.

Hatzlacha!

I actually really want to do the 12 steps....with someone ....i just dont know who, how, or when

laughingman wrote:


Do you have any set times durin' the day/night that are good for you?

i have been watching my day schedual ....how it plays out in reality ....to see what times i really have cause often i'll say " 1 pm" and then 1pm becomes my busiest hour somehow

So far 10 pm my time/ 3 pm est seems to be free-er then other times

i have been getting up the courage to go seek a meeting or group i can go to .....but being th end of june i have been swamped with business and end of school year things ...especially a special project we are working on... but all this will probably resolve around july-mid-july .....

In the meantime i try to motivate others on the forum alittle ......so i can get in that zchut rabim thing

Sounds good! Hatzlocha chaver! There are a lot of different roadblocks inside us whenever trying something new...because if it is worth anything at all, it can't possibly be comfortable or easy.

laughingman wrote:


I'm game for a 3 pm est call (10 to 15 minutes maximum)....anyone else?

sure, why not.

laughin' man; are you on for 3 tomorrow?
so far, we've got a threesome.