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Hashem, please open up the road for me!!!
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Scientific studies show that it takes 90 days to break an addictive pattern in the mind. Start your own Log of your journey to 90 days! Post here to update us on your status and to give each other chizuk to stay strong!

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Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 25 Jun 2013 23:47 #210367

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Try to breathe and just focus on one task at a time. Looking at a project as a whole could seem like a lot more than it really is and produce stress.

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 26 Jun 2013 00:20 #210370

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See, the road to 90 (which I am on again) is a noble one and can be very productive, but it also has the drawback of looking ahead. "Oy, how will I ever get there? Its so far away!" Many posters here say to "focus on the moment at hand." Not even one day at a time, but rather....each second...make this decision the right one.
The days will accumulate as you (we) go.
So, 90 days is a total of hundreds or even thousands of decisions (hopefully one needs to make less of them as the days go by) that were made in a positive sense.
I write for you, others and for myself.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 26 Jun 2013 00:49 #210373

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I've head many times from R'A Schorr that when we say in maariv, "V'haseir sattan m'lifaneinu u'meachareinu", this refers to the discouraging feelings that arise when looking at ones past or looking at the task ahead. Focus on our past misdeeds can lead a person to think, "what's the point? I've messed up so much already".

Looking at the potentially gargantuan task of doing teshuva and living a proper Torah life can also lead a person to think, "how will I ever do THAT"

Our job is to do the right thing (just for) now.

(...with the skills and emotions that we have now. In the future we will have a different set of tools. So don't worry about the future right now - my own hoisofo)
Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie

The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards

Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 26 Jun 2013 01:21 #210374

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Wow
That's a powerful vort for those words
I'm gonna try to use them tonight
I still need to create that "lust for hashem" mode that people have been saying.

I'm wondering if we should make a forum or booklet of vorts on tefillah that paarticulary address our situation.
Perhaps it will allow us to connect more by tefillah.

I say us; I mean myself and whoever else might have a connection problem by davening, esspecially due to the distance we put in between.

Thank you
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 28 Jun 2013 01:28 #210656

Hi My Dear Friends,
I have told the YH so many times that I dont want to play with him. He keeps coming to the door and tells me "I know that you really do want to play with me". I saw a post about the innkeeper who wanted to change his clientele so he just kept his door locked until the dirty and vulgar boors stopped knocking at his door. Then he was able to renovate and create a welcoming environment for fine upper class gentlemen.
Well my inn is still on the go to list for the Y"H but my doors are bolted closed. The bolts are getting loose from the steady pounding of the vulgar boors who used to frequent my joint.
I will continue to tighten and reinforce my door until the boors just stop coming and give up on my place. Then I can welcome the RBS"O with open arms.
I am being a bit aggressive asking the RBS"O to help me clean up the joint and help me keep the bolts secure. I think I'll just hand over the keys to the joint to the RBS"O and relinquish my control to him. He will reinforce my door bolts and help me get everything cleaned up and prepared for the high class guests that I look foward to welcoming into my inn.
Hashem, PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 28 Jun 2013 01:29 #210657

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KUTGW KOMT!!!

Just remember that you're not alone!!
Yankel | My Ladder | Talking to Hashem
I'm just a dude, another guy on this bus.
Have a great day, unless, of course, you made other plans. ~ obbormottel
"Nothing changes as long as everything stays the same" ~ Dov

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 15 Jul 2013 03:32 #212153

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Pidaini, Pischoshelmachat:
It seems that we are all on day 28 or so.
Do you want to form an official mezuman?
B'hatzlachah
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 15 Jul 2013 07:55 #212165

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Wow! you're really shteiging. KUTGW!

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 15 Jul 2013 13:55 #212179

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Cordnoy, I'm game!! There is another one, Ezra's his name day 29 is his game!

We almost have an "elokainu"!!
Yankel | My Ladder | Talking to Hashem
I'm just a dude, another guy on this bus.
Have a great day, unless, of course, you made other plans. ~ obbormottel
"Nothing changes as long as everything stays the same" ~ Dov

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 15 Jul 2013 17:14 #212192

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so lets get them on board and perhaps join a group or something
maybe phone conference
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 19 Aug 2013 18:42 #216533

Hello my dear friends,
With my slipping and sliding all summer long, i have missed the opportunity to make Erev Yom kippur as my day 90 and fell out of the holy group of this noble goal. I feel stranded on the side with trains whizzing by while i am left behind.
Today I am boarding the train and although i missed many opportunities in the past, my new opportunity begins right now.
I would love to find partners to reach our goal of 90 days the week before Chanukah.
Dear friends, please join me on my train as we come closer to the RBS"O and claim our lives back from the clutches of the YH.

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 19 Aug 2013 18:49 #216535

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Welcome to the train
We are all on the same one
heading in same direction
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 19 Aug 2013 18:56 #216537

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cordnoy wrote:
Welcome to the train
We are all on the same one
heading in same direction

first stop is TODAY!
Doors open on the right.
"ויעזור ויגן ויושיע לכל החוסים בו ונאמר אמן" -- ArtScroll Gabbai's Handbook

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 19 Aug 2013 18:59 #216538

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Standing passengers who just boarded, please hold on tight to the overhead bars so you don't slip and fall. If you are uncertain about your destination, please ask the passenger sitting next to you for guidance.
"ויעזור ויגן ויושיע לכל החוסים בו ונאמר אמן" -- ArtScroll Gabbai's Handbook

Re: Hashem, please open up the road for me!!! 19 Aug 2013 19:07 #216540

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And remember to thank the Driver.
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...


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