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Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 13 Aug 2014 10:15 #237311

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this is the 90 day forum, so let me update my status. 365 days. woohoo. 1 year, now I can go celebrate with some porn and masturbation. Maybe I'll go to a club for the first time to celebrate.

STOP!!! I am only kidding. Before I get all the responses, it is a joke.

Seriously, can't say it was a perfect year. Had slips, some really bad ones that were almost falls, but a year it is, and ain't no one who can take it away from me.

I still have so much further to go, I feel like my journey has only just started, and I guess it has. But looking back, I see that I have come so far since I started. So thank you Hashem for getting me here, and thank you GYE for helping me along the way.

And of course let me preempt all those others, I know still one day at a time.

Now I just have to fight the urge to not tell my wife that I have reached a big milestone.
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Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 13 Aug 2014 11:11 #237312

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MAZEL TOV!!!!!

may you continue many many years to come with much hatzlacha!!

Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 13 Aug 2014 12:59 #237316

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WOW!! Thank You for the update!! and A WOOOOHOOOOO to you too!!!

I spoke to Dov last night, he was relating his view on "focusing" on the amount of days of sobriety. He was saying how if he'd tell his wife "Honey, we have to celebrate!! I got two years of sobriety!!" she'd probably turn around and say "yippee, so you didn't shoot yourself in your head for two years....woooooooooow! [rolling eyes]".

Yes, it is good to be aware of our progress, it is awesome actually, but as MBJ showed so nicely, it is hardly time for celebration....which reminds me

My father told me a vort in the name of Tiferes Oozee'eil. He says that the reason the Pasuk says "do not rejoice when your enemy [The YH] falls" is because he's right around the corner on his way back!!

If one year would be a magic number, it would be time for rejoicing, but since it's not, MBJ's attitude is spot on!!

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Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 13 Aug 2014 18:28 #237325

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Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 13 Aug 2014 18:37 #237328

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Great stuff!
Yasherkoach!
I don't have a year straight, but I also struggle with the 'tellin' the wife' issue.
I hear you there.

Keep bein' mechazek us.

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Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 13 Aug 2014 19:05 #237333

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Mazel Tov!
kol hakavod to you!
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Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 13 Aug 2014 19:56 #237341

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Mazel Tov!!

Keep on keeping on!

Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 14 Aug 2014 00:09 #237372

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Mazel tov!!! Very happy for you.
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Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 14 Aug 2014 04:02 #237390

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WHOAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! MAZEL TOV!

But remember one day at a time...............OOPS! You wrote that in your post, i forget
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Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 14 Aug 2014 15:59 #237416

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mazal tov.
you are giving me a chizzuk to try and get there.
truth is we should have a virtual party, since we can relate to it more than others,
zemmy always has cholent ready.
i love you all

Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 20 Aug 2014 00:27 #237647

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MAZAL TOV! Great News! Halevei Veiter!

Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 22 Aug 2014 02:54 #237747

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incredibly awesome and inspiring! thanks for sharing

much love
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Day By Day Is The Only Way.

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Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 22 Aug 2014 19:51 #237758

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MBJ wrote:
this is the 90 day forum, so let me update my status. 365 days. woohoo. 1 year, now I can go celebrate with some porn and masturbation. Maybe I'll go to a club for the first time to celebrate.

STOP!!! I am only kidding. Before I get all the responses, it is a joke.

Seriously, can't say it was a perfect year. Had slips, some really bad ones that were almost falls, but a year it is, and ain't no one who can take it away from me.

I still have so much further to go, I feel like my journey has only just started, and I guess it has. But looking back, I see that I have come so far since I started. So thank you Hashem for getting me here, and thank you GYE for helping me along the way.

And of course let me preempt all those others, I know still one day at a time.

Now I just have to fight the urge to not tell my wife that I have reached a big milestone.


Wow, beautiful....but did you at least have a lechayim, a quiet smile with Hashem, and.............................another lechayim?

Today is my favorite day to be sober, and i'd trade a sober today for every anniversary I may ever have.

My today has gotta be geshmak! (almost a direct quote from R' TzviMeyer Z.)

"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 24 Aug 2014 17:59 #237818

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thanks dov for that insight today is my favorite day to be sober,

you reminded me of a vort i heard they used to say in nevordik "the worst present is better then the best future" "די ערגסטע הווה איז בעססער ווי די שענסטע עתיד"

meaning of course that dealing with the present is better then any kind of amazing future you have in plan,

Re: MBJ's 90 day (and more) Journey 26 Aug 2014 00:33 #237908

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Thank you all for the well wishes.

I was thinking something today, and I would love some feedback on it. I have been kind of own recently, and the whole idea of today is the best day to be sober triggered this thought.

For me sobriety is like a mitzvas lo saaseh. I define sober as not acting out. I stay sober because I hate the person that I am when I am using lust, and I know that any given sip can send me down the rabbit hole. Basically, sobriety is not doing something negative.

But then I hear people in recovery and it seems more like an positive and not a lack of a negative. It seems like I am missing something fundamental here, but I don't know what it is. It also seems to me like this is my next big step that I have to take in my recovery.

Thoughts?
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Only when we make our real lives sweeter than our fantasies will we reap the emotional rewards, the happiness of recovery. - AlexEliezer
Focus on making the right choices as they come up. - Skeptical
When I start to literally accept G-d's Will as guiding my life today, things start to change. - Dov
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