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Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 21 Jun 2013 21:04 #209995

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for some reason i can't seem to change the picture.

here is the one i wanted to use.

Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie

The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards

Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi

Last Edit: 21 Jun 2013 21:08 by reallygettingthere.

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 24 Jun 2013 22:53 #210197

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NEW PROFILE PICTURE!!!

Update:

About two months ago I announced that I would be posting less because I found a friend that I would speak with daily about my struggle.

or so I thought.

Apparently, he was also struggling and kept on avoiding having these discussions.

and I started

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Finally at the end of last week I really pushed the issue and sat down with him to have a five minute discussion that lasted for an hour.

BH it was quite productive for him and me. I knew that he was struggling but he opened up to me and I opened up to him and gave each other chizuk.

The truth is that without GYE I probably would not have developed the courage to open up to someone.

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 25 Jun 2013 19:11 #210300

TehillimZugger OFFLINE Platinum Boarder לבד הנשמה הטהורה Posts: 2446 Karma: 34	I think I once heard of a minhag to light candles Motzei Taanis
	?דער באשעפער לאווט מיך אייביג. וויפיל לאוו איך עהם My Creator loves me at all times. How great is my love for him?

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 25 Jun 2013 19:36 #210309

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	some are noheg to light the burners on the stove or the grill motzei taanis
	Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise ~Inna beshem ZS Give, Forgive ~Cordnoy The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting. ~TZ

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 25 Jun 2013 19:38 #210312

reallygettingthere Current streak: 72 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 759 Karma: 27	I'm soimech on the ~~BAD WORD REMOVED~~as that hold you can be yoitze with Keurig
	Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up! No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 25 Jun 2013 20:32 #210324

Dov OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 1960 Karma: 383	ZemirosShabbos wrote: some are noheg to light the burners on the stove or the grill motzei taanis I used to have a minhag to masturbate to porn after watching TV for a few hours on Motzoei Shabbosos. I'm not exactly sure where that minhag shtamms from, but I was very serious about it, at the time. That much I remember vividly.
	"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 25 Jun 2013 20:36 #210326

mr. emunah Current streak: 121 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1139 Karma: 43	OWCH! it may come from Midian....

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 25 Jun 2013 20:42 #210327

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reallygettingthere wrote:

I found a friend that I would speak with daily about my struggle.

or so I thought.

Apparently, he was also struggling and kept on avoiding having these discussions.

and I started

S
L
I
P
P
I
N
G

Finally at the end of last week I really pushed the issue and sat down with him to have a five minute discussion that lasted for an hour.

BH it was quite productive for him and me. I knew that he was struggling but he opened up to me and I opened up to him and gave each other chizuk.

The truth is that without GYE I probably would not have developed the courage to open up to someone.

Beautiful, how this opening up theing works. Magic, really. We really are the very worst keepers of our secrets, aren't we?

But I sincerely hope you do not fall for the mistake we frum guys often fall for, of tying our own recovery to that of another person. Chayecha kodmin applies here - if it applies anywhere at all.

That is very important, OK.

Hatzlocha!

"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 25 Jun 2013 20:48 #210328

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	Dov wrote: ZemirosShabbos wrote: some are noheg to light the burners on the stove or the grill motzei taanis I used to have a minhag to masturbate to porn after watching TV for a few hours on Motzoei Shabbosos. I'm not exactly sure where that minhag shtamms from, but I was very serious about it, at the time. That much I remember vividly. did you check Taamei Haminhagim?
	Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise ~Inna beshem ZS Give, Forgive ~Cordnoy The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting. ~TZ

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 25 Jun 2013 21:37 #210337

Pidaini OFFLINE Platinum Boarder פדני מעושק אדם-מיצר הרע העושק את הבריות-רש"י Posts: 2189 Karma: 107	Dov wrote: But [/b]I sincerely hope you do not fall for the mistake we frum guys often fall for, of tying our own recovery to that of another person. Chayecha kodmin applies here - if it applies anywhere at all. That is very important, OK. Hatzlocha! Dov, can I ask you to explain what you mean? Thnaks
	Yankel \| My Ladder \| Talking to Hashem I'm just a dude, another guy on this bus. Have a great day, unless, of course, you made other plans. ~ obbormottel "Nothing changes as long as everything stays the same" ~ Dov

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 25 Jun 2013 23:10 #210361

TehillimZugger OFFLINE Platinum Boarder לבד הנשמה הטהורה Posts: 2446 Karma: 34	ZemirosShabbos wrote: did you check Taamei Haminhagim? You may want to check this sefer.
	?דער באשעפער לאווט מיך אייביג. וויפיל לאוו איך עהם My Creator loves me at all times. How great is my love for him? Last Edit: 25 Jun 2013 23:11 by TehillimZugger.

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 25 Jun 2013 23:42 #210366

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ZemirosShabbos wrote:

Dov wrote:

ZemirosShabbos wrote:

some are noheg to light the burners on the stove or the grill motzei taanis

I used to have a minhag to masturbate to porn after watching TV for a few hours on Motzoei Shabbosos. I'm not exactly sure where that minhag shtamms from, but I was very serious about it, at the time. That much I remember vividly.

did you check Taamei Haminhagim?

Maybe it's a "Choik" without a Taam. As the Ibn Ezra (Vayikra 18:3) says, that when one keeps repeating such habits it becomes a "choik" (an ingrained addiction).

MT

Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 26 Jun 2013 00:42 #210372

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Speaking of minhagim, here was mine

After we (wife and I) became assur, id hook up with a woman (thru skype or yahoo) halfway around the world. strangely, I do not have the tayva (too much) of looking at videos any longer. I have a willing partner. The street, pictures etc still have effect upon me, but it is like channeled to one source. In some ways, it is easier to control, but in other ways, it is more difficult.

Its off the topic of motzei taanis minhagim (and I hope I don't create a new minhag), so I won't be maarich here.

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Re: My Story - Reallygettingthere 26 Jun 2013 05:47 #210388

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Dov wrote:

Yes, it must be a minhag Yisroel because I also used to do it. (And who among us can say, honestly of course, that they never had this minhag or one very similar.)

But I'm not sure the source either.

However, I found the source for reallygettingthere's minhag to set up the candles instead of masturbating. Dvar Torah hidden in spoiler for those of us who read in the bathroom.

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