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A handful tool 04 Aug 2021 15:24 #371421

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I discovered a new tool that kept me ongoing for a few month now. It's a powerful tool, but it should be used with the due respect. 
I saw a video that REALLY disgusted me. Once I saw that, it impact me so much that I stopped watching porn. 
I know that disgust may not be the nicest choice, but it surely works for me. I remember reading that that's how Rabi Najman of Breslev overcome his yetzer hara. 
Hope this helps you!

Re: A handful tool 05 Aug 2021 09:58 #371452

It might be a good idea to write down exactly what your feelings are/were so that when time passes yo can remind yourself of this newfound tool. Obviously don't write anything in a way which will get you triggered, but as much as you can try to describe the feelings of disgust... and then share it with us so we can all benefit!

Re: A handful tool 06 Mar 2022 15:06 #378178

et wrote on 04 Aug 2021 15:24:
I discovered a new tool that kept me ongoing for a few month now. It's a powerful tool, but it should be used with the due respect. 
I saw a video that REALLY disgusted me. Once I saw that, it impact me so much that I stopped watching porn. 
I know that disgust may not be the nicest choice, but it surely works for me. I remember reading that that's how Rabi Najman of Breslev overcome his yetzer hara. 
Hope this helps you!

This has helped me tremendously. This exact method. 
“Distancing and removing triggers is only bringing the door closer..Changing the insides and our nature is the key to get in.” 

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Re: A handful tool 06 Mar 2022 16:42 #378183

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Back in the days when I was really a heavy watcher, I once saw a video of a frum man involved in a chat with a female (I am trying to keep this clean,but I assume you get the gist of the content of the video). She must have recorded it and then posted it somewhere. He looked so ridiculous and disgusting that it really made me want to throw up. I realized that is how I look as well. However the disgust didn't last long unfortunately.

Re: A handful tool 06 Mar 2022 17:15 #378186

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Lou wrote on 06 Mar 2022 16:42:
Back in the days when I was really a heavy watcher, I once saw a video of a frum man involved in a chat with a female (I am trying to keep this clean,but I assume you get the gist of the content of the video). She must have recorded it and then posted it somewhere. He looked so ridiculous and disgusting that it really made me want to throw up. I realized that is how I look as well. However the disgust didn't last long unfortunately.

We have a thread for that. Most fellows think it can't happen to them.
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Re: A handful tool 06 Mar 2022 17:25 #378188

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Lou wrote on 06 Mar 2022 16:42:
Back in the days when I was really a heavy watcher, I once saw a video of a frum man involved in a chat with a female (I am trying to keep this clean,but I assume you get the gist of the content of the video). She must have recorded it and then posted it somewhere. He looked so ridiculous and disgusting that it really made me want to throw up. I realized that is how I look as well. However the disgust didn't last long unfortunately.

Visualization in general is a powerful technique that can be used as a tool in this struggle. When you visualize an experience, areas of our brain actually go through some of the motions used when actually acting out that behavior.
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Re: A handful tool 06 Mar 2022 19:54 #378197

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et wrote on 04 Aug 2021 15:24:
I discovered a new tool that kept me ongoing for a few month now. It's a powerful tool, but it should be used with the due respect. 
I saw a video that REALLY disgusted me. Once I saw that, it impact me so much that I stopped watching porn. 
I know that disgust may not be the nicest choice, but it surely works for me. I remember reading that that's how Rabi Najman of Breslev overcome his yetzer hara. 
Hope this helps you!

As someone who's been down a few rabbit holes, unfortunately not everything most people find disgusting or wierd is a turn-off for everyone. It may make the problem worse for some
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