I have been dealing lately with a couple where the wife busted her husband and found out all about his infidelity. The massage parlors, the porn, the phone relationships. As you can all imagine, all hell broke loose
And I found it fascinating that this woman is mostly destroyed by the fact that her husband was shmoozing with Jewish women on the phone. Women he never met. In her words, the having sex in the massage parlors, the porn, even the discussing inappropriate things on chat lines, that doesn't kill her. She understands that men can have a tayva, and they'll do crazy things to get their tayva fulfilled. Of course it bothers her, very much so, but it doesn't kill her. It's the shmoozing about stam things with those Jewish women that he found on those cursed chat lines that she can't forgive. In her words, "am I not even good enough for a conversation?"
There's the part that she sees this as a relationship, as a threat to her own, etc. Bottom line is, a woman can be much more distraught that her husband is casually shmoozing with another women in an inappropriate setting, than she is by the fact that he had sex with other women

I don't know if anybody pointed this out to the oilam yet.
The changing of the clock is hard. Erev purim stress is hard. Tired, stressed people have a harder time withstanding urges.
Tired, stressed people that have a bottle or two of wine for a lchaim instead of stressing reach out to friends have been BH quite successful  

I try to share only encouraging, happy messages
Friends, please allow me to share and unload some pain
Got a text: Okay so to make it short. I'm a 15 year old girl. My family got a new computer that's never meant to be connected to the internet, so it's not tagged at all. I figured out my parents Wi-Fi password and started going through things like TikTok and such stuff. I can stay up until like 4am watching things because that's the only time that no one's around

It's so sad. Here's a girl, exposed, struggling, not knowing what to do. Her parents are oblivious, thinking that there's no problem with the computer, right? Perhaps they don't know anything about wifi. But as parents raising children in today's world, we all have to stay in the know. 

It is incumbent upon us to be knowledgeable. Otherwise we run the same risk as above. 
Perhaps once a year we should be doing bedikas hadevices, checking every device whether they are truly safe

Hashem Yeracheim Aleinu

P.s. No, I don't help girls. I send them to a helpful person from the women's side of GYE.

eerie wrote on 09 Apr 2025 18:38:

Painful.. Interesting, How did she get your number? 

@ CMS- There's no chiddush. Yes, unloading. And reminding us, those of us who have kids

@JF- Redfaced answered correctly.

@ Redfaced- can you bring a horse to a farbrengen? 

eerie wrote on 10 Apr 2025 22:49:

You can even make it drink FISH ZAFT
Clink Clink 
yum yum

eerie wrote on 10 Apr 2025 22:49:

You can even make it drink
Clink Clink 
yum yum

Interesting, How did she get your number?