I have gentech on my computer. Works great. The only thing is that the company manages the filter settings for you. Lets say if you have youtube blocked completely, but want to watch a kosher video on there, you need to request thru them to lighten the filter settings. Usually its not a problem but sometimes, they won't do anything about it until the next day because the work day has ended for them. 

Netspark is another good option- you can customize your own filter settings (when you're feeling strong) and then give the password of your account to someone (maybe parents or a friend) so that you cannot change the settings yourself.

BH i have not fallen to porn with either one installed
Hatzlocha with wtvr you decide to do!

Looking for eitzos here from some people who can relate (or even if you can't)

I'm pretty much done with my co ed high school and everyone is making all of these fun activities to do together (which include both genders). I'm under heavy pressure from my friends (who mean well) to attend some of these events where the dress will likely be tznius but still a non moderated event with girls who "flirt" with me and I always find myself thinking about them afterwards. The thing is I always try to back out but sometimes these girls specifically accuse me of avoiding them (which is true) and I want to make sure I'm not nichshal but at the same time not hurt anyone as well. Also the cherry on top is I already kind of socially isolate myself to avoid these things and it would be kind of nice to hang out with everyone. 

I already said I'm not coming but everyone is pestering me to change my mind saying it won't be so bad. What do people think?

Seems like your in a pickle.

It's a really difficult position to be in as you would love to hang out but you know what that will lead to.

I'm responding as noone else offered an eitza (perhaps someone pm you a response?)

You already made up your mind not to go as you realize it's detrimental to your goals/values.
If you were asking me I think you are making the right decision.

however it's always good to get some guidance from someone that knows you and can help you come to a decision based on where your holding.

Are there any other guys you can hang out with and do your own thing? Are there no breakaway groups?

Be proud of your decision! Is there any member of the staff (many modern schools have more chareidi type staff) who you can get some chizuk from? 

No I wish

Wow you are amazing! You're like Avraham Avinu who did what he knew was right even though others weren't doing it

May Hashem repay you for your incredible sacrifice. It is normal that you may question your decision when the guys come back and brag about how great the trip was. Don't panic at that point. It's ok to feel a bit down and disappointed. At the same time, be proud that you did what you did. the feelings will go away quickly, the added kedusha, and the zchus will remain with you for life.

...and may I add that while you may view us as no more than anonymous friends, WE will be the ones who will be "there for you" when you feel like a loser / unloyal friend - after missing the trip. Just post your feelings and the responses will help you. Really!

We've got your back tzadik!

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wowwww crazy feeling being number 1 on the 90 day chart board!

I think it says I'm number one, but ok 

We could share...

3 more days!!

Haha deal

With the help of Hashem, all of the heilige chevra here at GYE, and my own hishtadlus I have reached 90 days!!! 

GYE was a complete game changer - I had a 17 day streak when I joined, followed by a week where I fell a lot, and now I'm back at 90! In other words, I had one time period where I fell since halfway through January and now its May. Very good stuff.

What worked for me was really simple. Just motivation and posting on the forum. Still don't have a filter and still need to get one but point is if you want it enough you can do it.

I was addicted to masturbation (seen inappropriate images but never literal porn but might as well have been) since I was about 13 so 5 years that I acted out constantly usually every night or two but at the same time I always believe I can do anything and once I realized the gravity of the problem I started to aim to stop.

So this was about a year ago and before I joined GYE all I did was just keep a tally of how many days I went without acting out and I usually reached around 3 or 4, with my highest being 10 days clean. The only thing that changed when I joined GYE was the forum. Thats pretty much the only difference. So all I did was just keep clean and talk a lot on the forum. 

In other words posting on the forum is an absolute game changer if you are struggling definitely post! No one will find out who you are you can be from literally anywhere. Even if someone does find out who you are (won't happen) they are in the struggle too and will understand.

Pure willpower might not work for everyone especially people who are more seriously addicted but just sharing what works for me. I simply wanted to be free enough that I did it. It wasn't worth living life that way. And nothing will magically make the desires go away so you have to actively try to stay clean. If your heart isn't in it maybe you will never be free. You have to really want it. 

It will be hard. But the longer you stay clean the easier it gets you just have to make it there to see the other side. 

Hoping to celebrate with all of you guys in your successes and wishing everyone much hatzlacha!

Eved Hashem

As I posted in the Lchaim thread...
A huge Mazal tov to you. This is a great accomplishment. Keep up the great work. You are an inspiration to all of us

Mazel tov!! Keep up the good work of inspiring others. It is a great chizuk for everyone to see that "it can be done" b'ezras Hashem.

Amazing! Stay on your game and be a winner!