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beginer 26 Jun 2020 02:34 #351822

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hi.i am new to this site can anyone tell me a good place to sa start

Re: beginer 26 Jun 2020 03:33 #351830

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Well you already started:) your in a safe place - Just start typing your struggles and challenges and utopias and wins, and youll see how many people will be able to help

Re: beginer 26 Jun 2020 06:46 #351845

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Welcome! You came to the right place.

Come here often, update your 90 day chart, pay attention to the Cumulative Clean Days more then the 90 days goal to get an overall picture of how far you've come, and most of all know that you are not alone. We are all going through this and got your back. It's possible, many successful people here, you just got to keep working at it.

Post here about your journey, especially when feeling weak. 

If you have patience to read, take a look at the GYE handbook, some really good stuff there. https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/gye-handbook

"The fight" by Rabbi Shafier, is also a great place to start (especially if you'd rather listen to a shiur then read...)
https://gye.vids.io/tags/6c9cdbbb1ce9/rabbi-bentzion-shafier

Hatzlachah! Looking forward to hearing from you.

All the best,
wilnevergiveup
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Re: beginer 26 Jun 2020 10:22 #351846

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thanks .

Re: beginer 26 Jun 2020 13:15 #351847

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micheal wrote on 26 Jun 2020 02:34:
hi.i am new to this site can anyone tell me a good place to sa start

Welcome! 
  • Start by setting a clear goal. Is your goal now to break-free from pornography, masturbation or both? It’s okay to focus on one goal at a time.
  • Next step is to get clarity on why you want to quit. Write down your reasons. Be as specific as possible. Take a few moments to seriously consider how the behaviors you want to stop conflict with your values, or with the person you want to be. Reply to this email with the list of your reasons. We want to know what really brought you to our program and it’s important for you to be clear on this as well. Wishing you the most amazing 90 days of your life!
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
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Re: beginer 28 Jun 2020 04:10 #351881

Welcome! Firstly, no matter how what happens(how deep you think youre in), keep coming back. No matter what.
The whole site may seem a bit whelming at first, so much going on and so many diff terms, ideas, tools, and methods that are a bit confusing. My advice is either to read the GYE HB(willnevergiveup posted the link) or to chat/email with an experienced user(someone that have been here for many many years) and he'll ease you into it. 
Hatzlacha!


PS My email is boftheg1@gmail.com if I can help in any way(Im not so experienced but I can point you in the right direction).
"You will never be entirely comfortable. This is the truth behind the champion – he is always fighting something. To do otherwise is to settle."
Battle on, and I always take advice.

Re: beginer 28 Jun 2020 04:56 #351882

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Try The Battle of the Generation (guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation). It's an incredible book.
In the place where ba’alei teshuva stand, even pure tzaddikim who never sinned cannot stand. (Rabbi Avohu, Brachos 34b)

Great free resources:
My favorite book for breaking free: The Battle of the Generation 
https://guardyoureyes.com/ebooks/item/the-battle-of-the-generation. Change your attitude and change your life!

Rabbi Shafier's incredible lectures on breaking free: The Fight. Download here: 
https://theshmuz.com/series/the-fight/

If you're only ready to try something small, check out an easier way to do self-talk here:
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/378128-Captain—Shtarkemotionals-Secret90Day-Challenge

Re: beginer 15 Jan 2021 02:19 #361344

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Hows it goin buddy?
Cmon, come back and let’s grow together!
We’re one family!
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