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Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 14 Jan 2018 02:07 #325408

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youcan wrote on 12 Jan 2018 15:11:
I think that many people are avoiding these words because they are ashamed. In graphology they say that if somebody is not happy with his family he would rather not write out his last name, he will use initial or just scribble it. I think that while I'm avoiding these words I have no problem admitting that I struggle with these bad bad things & don't have an issue talking about it.





me too,very well put,and as iampowerless put it  very sharp and true, but beware of the attitude that I myself , and others who have posted have, and that is before I  had a problem with lust , I was raised to speak lashon nekiya, to daven ,learn torah, etcetera,(whoops!)now that im dealing with lust ,acting out, so let me drop a few things here and there  ,let me make a dirtyish joke ,off color joke (we`ve all seen it) ,and ive decided that im continuing doing whatever  I was doing before,im not claiming to be holier than anyone ,im looking down at a/o who doesn't use  astreks ( uch ! look he spelled it out like that) and I don't think its something too make  a whole fuss about , as it was only brought up  on this thread as a smokescreen and diversion when a  good question was asked with a good point  trying to be made, and due to lack of an answer,someone started nit picking and as the saying goes,ask a silly question ,you get a silly answer ,you ask a GOOD question and they notice your shoe is untied. actually I made up the second half,but you get my  point   be well everyone, and hatzlacha

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  to all my friends who heeded my request  to be so generous and give me a negative karma  for the sake of me acquiring       
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Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 14 Jan 2018 06:12 #325434

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ieeyc wrote on 14 Jan 2018 02:07:

youcan wrote on 12 Jan 2018 15:11:
I think that many people are avoiding these words because they are ashamed. In graphology they say that if somebody is not happy with his family he would rather not write out his last name, he will use initial or just scribble it. I think that while I'm avoiding these words I have no problem admitting that I struggle with these bad bad things & don't have an issue talking about it.






me too,very well put,and as iampowerless put it  very sharp and true, but beware of the attitude that I myself , and others who have posted have, and that is before I  had a problem with lust , I was raised to speak lashon nekiya, to daven ,learn torah, etcetera,(whoops!)now that im dealing with lust ,acting out, so let me drop a few things here and there  ,let me make a dirtyish joke ,off color joke (we`ve all seen it) ,and ive decided that im continuing doing whatever  I was doing before,im not claiming to be holier than anyone ,im looking down at a/o who doesn't use  astreks ( uch ! look he spelled it out like that) and I don't think its something too make  a whole fuss about , as it was only brought up  on this thread as a smokescreen and diversion when a  good question was asked with a good point  trying to be made, and due to lack of an answer,someone started nit picking and as the saying goes,ask a silly question ,you get a silly answer ,you ask a GOOD question and they notice your shoe is untied. actually I made up the second half,but you get my  point   be well everyone, and hatzlacha

Dear ieeyc,

I'm really sorry. I have posted the question with zero intentions to cause a smokescreen as you describe it. I received some great answers, especially Gevura's link, and others. The answers taught me to be more sensitive to other people.
I apologize that you felt like I was nitpicking you.
Please forgive me.

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Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 14 Jan 2018 06:32 #325435

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Just my 2 cents on, both my question regarding the use of asterisks, and ieeyc's question regarding if recommending marriage to someone struggling is considered degrading of woman.

Regarding Asterisks:
I received some great answers and realized some people might be triggered by certain words. I do believe there is a difference between slang words which is not lushen nekia and should not be used, versus technical words which I feel is fine, but I understand that it can affect some people. 
On a personal level, I used to be triggered when I saw a license plate with the letters EXS, my brain used to shuffle the letters and start thinking about it. Only after I started using these words here on the forums, it stopped being an issue.

Regarding ieeyc's question:
 I think it depends alot on the situation. If the boy is obsessed with it or addicted, it is probably not a good idea to recommend marriage. However for the average boy which occasionally struggles with this, I don't think there is any issues with him getting married, however he should clearly be told that for most if not all people, marriage is not a cure, it only exacerbates the problem. 

Hatzlacha Rabba!
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Last Edit: 14 Jan 2018 06:34 by lionking. Reason: Typo

Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 14 Jan 2018 06:35 #325436

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wow lionking, your such a mentch!    mochel lach x3!    sorry if I sounded so grouchy,gotta learn how to express better,  loved your thread!  learnt  a lot!  keep in touch,

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Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 14 Jan 2018 11:18 #325442

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as part of the above discussion my wife was told that in the yichud room there may be some form of חיבוק ונישוק 
guess what happened the poor girl froze like a piece of ice waiting for the holy ritual to happen so she can just get on with her life 
and the poor bochur oy we wont even talk about him
does anyone even know what חיבוק ונישוק is ?
maybe it has something to do with מוז"ל?

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Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 14 Jan 2018 12:22 #325444

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Hashem Help Me wrote on 12 Jan 2018 17:41:

cordnoy wrote on 12 Jan 2018 06:15:



This is one Hell of a p***
I will also a**** that it BadWordDeletedin' shocked me.
kol hakavod! 
And yes, WDHIDFFSWT?




What does WDHIDFFSWT mean?

Where The Hell Is Da ****** Five Star Widget Thing
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 14 Jan 2018 12:26 #325445

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tzomah wrote on 14 Jan 2018 11:18:
as part of the above discussion my wife was told that in the yichud room there may be some form of חיבוק ונישוק 
guess what happened the poor girl froze like a piece of ice waiting for the holy ritual to happen so she can just get on with her life 
and the poor bochur oy we wont even talk about him
does anyone even know what חיבוק ונישוק is ?
maybe it has something to do with מוז"ל?

well neshek is weapons, and chibuk is choking, or maybe hitting like we  do chabaka the hoshanos on the  floor on hoshana  raba  no wonder why she was afraid, and the last word is mozel tov!

לב  טהור   ברא   לי   אלקים , ורוח  נכון    חדש  בקרבי

  to all my friends who heeded my request  to be so generous and give me a negative karma  for the sake of me acquiring       
                                                . humility ,i humbly  thank you                                                                                                 

Last Edit: 14 Jan 2018 12:28 by ieeyc.

Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 16 Jan 2018 13:47 #325568

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Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 16 Jan 2018 15:46 #325572

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From the your words I understand that the rambam is talking to the wife so you can skip that rambam... You don't have to work to be mekayem that rambam.
I'm sure that just like the gemura in nedurim didn't disappoint me, the rambam will also not let me down...

Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 16 Jan 2018 16:59 #325583

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If the husband is approaching this with an attitude of "getting what's coming to him", sooner or later he's gonna get what's coming to him.
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Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 18 Jan 2018 16:21 #325657

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Gevura Shebyesod wrote on 16 Jan 2018 16:59:
If the husband is approaching this with an attitude of "getting what's coming to him", sooner or later he's gonna get what's coming to him.

whats coming to him?

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  to all my friends who heeded my request  to be so generous and give me a negative karma  for the sake of me acquiring       
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Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 18 Jan 2018 16:36 #325658

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youcan wrote on 16 Jan 2018 15:46:
From the your words I understand that the rambam is talking to the wife so you can skip that rambam... You don't have to work to be mekayem that rambam.
I'm sure that just like the gemura in nedurim didn't disappoint me, the rambam will also not let me down...

from the your words i understand that its not a mitzva to learn every word of the Rambam even if its something that doesnt aply to me.

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  to all my friends who heeded my request  to be so generous and give me a negative karma  for the sake of me acquiring       
                                                . humility ,i humbly  thank you                                                                                                 

Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 18 Jan 2018 17:37 #325660

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  to all my friends who heeded my request  to be so generous and give me a negative karma  for the sake of me acquiring       
                                                . humility ,i humbly  thank you                                                                                                 

Last Edit: 19 Jan 2018 05:54 by ieeyc.

Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 18 Jan 2018 18:00 #325661

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I don't think that cajoling is equivalent to rape, but insisting when she's clearly not in the mood is certainly not the right thing to do and will not lead to Shalom Bayis.

A huge difference between the Torah's attitude to life and contemporary culture is that the culture we live in is obsessed with rights, while the Torah focuses on responsibilities. Giving, not taking.
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Last Edit: 18 Jan 2018 18:02 by gevura shebyesod.

Re: Introducing Myself - "Nerdy" 18 Jan 2018 18:07 #325662

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  to all my friends who heeded my request  to be so generous and give me a negative karma  for the sake of me acquiring       
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