yes! defiantly! I wish I can dedicate my life to helping people in need. it makes me feel so alive and up

ZDuvid wrote on 10 Jan 2017 16:59:

How to work a good personal program has a number of parts to it and I don't want to oversimplify things. However, healthy social connections - as you yourself have found - can be a major part of it. 
The link below talks about this. There is another animated version but  I only found it on youtube and I don't like going there.

www.ted.com/talks/johann_hari_everything_you_think_you_know_about_addiction_is_wrong

Hatzloocho

yiraishamaim wrote on 10 Jan 2017 18:16:

Thanks so much for the reply. 
About Johann Haris Talk I think alot of addicts will disagree... while he may be right that when the addiction starts off it may be to BOND and people turn to adiction to bond and feel good, but once your deep in it its a sickness..

yes, but why do some people get addicted, and some do not.  That may have to do with a bonding deficiency.  AND, even once addicted, it does help recovery to have bonds.  AND, not having the bonds, will definitely make it more difficult to recover.

BOTTOM LINE:
HEALTHY BONDING IS IMPORTANT!

ZDuvid wrote on 10 Jan 2017 18:27:

ZDuvid - I am a little confused. Healthy bonding with other people is very helpful in being a part of an overall program of recovery. That's all I am saying.
Even GYE itself is about connection to a great extent.
Relationships in person without anonymity are even better!
Of course, there are a lot of other things that are even more basic like learning to give over the fight to Hashem...

yiraishamaim wrote on 11 Jan 2017 03:31:

yirai: Here it is safely in the GYE video repository. 

Are you an addict? Have you tried 12 steps?
Step 3: Give over life and will to the care of God.
'Cuz one day there will be nobody to help out. And everything will go wrong all at the same time.
Then what?

This

Well put Zduvid. 
Now the question to ask is: Why are you addicted to escaping reality? What about your reality is unpleasing and requires an escape? Is there a way to improve the reality or maybe compromise?

360gye wrote on 12 Jan 2017 04:27:

Since I can remember, I was always on this planet as a piece of shi**.  At the age of 8 I was already going to wieght loss group's, and visited every freakin nutritionist that lived within a 100 mile radiant...
People might not understand but a human being NEEDS to feel excepted and worthwhile. I always felt different. 
I never comprehended the deep emotions that i carried till recently.
And even till today, for example i was by a Bris today in shul at a family members Simcha and one friend asked me "I see your on your way up...(in wieght) what's going on"..
I feel like a uncomfortable soul in my soul.
(A easy girl hook-up would never happen...why would they when they have cute dudes running after them..)
So I have this tense feeling all the time on one side not fitting in and being ashamed/uncomfortable, and on the other side im tense with needing to go on a diet and working hard on myself. (Exusting)

ZDuvid wrote on 13 Jan 2017 18:37:

Nonsense! Have enough confidence to believe you could hook up with anyone!
..Then you'll stop thinking about how to achieve it.

Singularity wrote on 16 Jan 2017 06:59:

HAHA! the problem is that the "confidence" will be leaning against "proven facts"

ZDuvid wrote on 16 Jan 2017 18:41:

Law of large numbers, my friend! A successful salesman will make thousands of meetings and snag maybe 20, 30 or so. 




And please don't take my advice and talk to thousands of girls. Unless you're speed-shidduchisizing.

I hear ya! (By the way is there any reason our Chachamim didn't kill the Yetzer Hora of Znus? Can you imagine it would've been the opposite, they would of killed the Znus but left the Yetzer Hora of Avoda Zora... GYE would of been GYG.. Gard Your Getchkah)

ZDuvid wrote on 18 Jan 2017 04:51:

The Gemora asks your question and answers it.

PersonallyI, I practiced: Guard Your Shiktzah.