I would say that minor slips do not need to be shared. It is not helpful to tell your wife that your eyes strayed today etc. She likely does not want to know that.

My wife finding out was painful, but our relationship has gotten much better as a result, (and we had a good relationship to begin with). It takes time and effort, but relationships can get better as a result. Check out the shalom bayis link in my signature for a great thread.

Stillgoing. I hear you and it definitely is not an easy thing to have a wife that you can't be opened with.

Like you mention that you just got a, glimpse into the source of where your addiction comes from.

It's so important to deal with life and not just a porn Addiction.

Because if not, the issue with be there forever Bec you haven't replaced it with something healthy.

I've battle with this for over 15 years now just now am I realizing that it goes beyond porn ect.

I know it's scary and uncomfortable to deal with life but it must be down .

we need to do anything to help ourselves weather it's, getting a sponsor (a must), phone calls, live meetings, writing on this form, doing the 90day challenge or working the 12 steps.

Everything helps if we want it to help us!

lifeisawesome.
I'm very open with my wife. We have many deep searching conversations about many topics. Just not THAT one. You know when I wrote that I wont even have one chance, I don't think it even had to do with what she would do. I think it's more about how I would feel, knowing that I in my stupidity caused this to her. The husbands job is protect and care for his wife and I've back stabbed her so bad
pischoshelmachat, I really feel for you, There really is no difference in what I have done and what you have done except you have already begun a kaporah, while I am terrified waiting.
BUT! We don't have to wait! The rest of our lives are made up of single days, one after the other. If we can be good today, then we can be good tomorrow. So long as we keep it in mind, we don't get too comfortable, and we use our tools (refer to handbook) wisely.

Hi everyone, what's the best way to interrupt slipping back into to old habits when you feel the stress of life building back up? I'm feeling tremendously grateful to G-d for being able to hold on and feeling good for over a week now, and I haven't fallen, but I know that feeling of stress that begins small and just keeps on growing. When the day just can't seem to get off to a good start, it starts me worrying about where it might lead. Any advice?

How about calling a friend? Going for a bike ride? Or calling a friend and going for a bike ride .