Thanks, appreciate that. And I mentioned this before but I haven't done much besides being active on the forum in terms of recovery process. I want to try the taphsic method. Otherwise I need to have some active preventetiv methods cause when the urge comes on I forget about the pain this causes and I jump for or...

bill w calls it an obsession or disease of the mind.
one of the reasons is because it makes us forget the last time.
it causes us to forget the feelings of pain or hurt or shame we had the last time.
that allows us to do it again.

b'hatzlachah on findin' the right tool for your recovery

So, that begs the question, how do we remember?

Staying connected is a good way, for starters. I find that after a lust binge, the last thing I want to do is show my "face" around here. That means to me that showing my face around is the right thing to do

The idea of self-work is also important. Aside from the benefits that the process obviously entails, working on your self keeps recovery at the forefront of your reality, which could help remind you of the destructive potential that lurks in your subconscious.

If I find myself forgetting, I increase my program commitment and will redo my 1st step.

I am so terribly afraid of forgetting the pain of falling. I am trying to stay connected and I have found myself a very provocative sponsor who keeps me challenged. Any more ideas would be very welcome. I am so afraid.

I'm worried about falling too. I'm jealous of you PSM that I haven't got the same fear you have. With a fear like that you don't need to worry. (What an oxymoron!)
Most of my falls have come when I'm feeling secure. And when I feel good about myself. Suddenly then bakimt me all maadanei oilam, all the attractive women.
I'm really pleased that I've come to realise that thought process, as knowing it it has helped me to stay away from it when I see it raising its head.

ok so im starting taphsic method now, im deciding what to make myself do when i get an urge, i beleive to walk/jog for 10 minutes is good, speaking to my wife, and maybe read an article/talk to someone on here. what yall think. also, im gonna start the 1st step for first time ...

I like it

Ok, so last night, first night of my month long taphsic method and I didn't have an urge at all, which is very rare when I'm alone for so long so Ifeel good about tthat. Shabat shalom for now, hope we all have an uplifting one

Thank Hashem

Great! Shabbat Shalom.

Hi TM613,

Hope your Chabbes was great !

Been using the taphsic method for a week now and its been going well, ive stuck to it and though it hasn't made everything go away obviously it has helped a lot and has made my urges and acting out less impulsive . Besides that ive been trying to keep busy, though that can be challanging when alone, which do to my wife and my work schedual is inevitable, so that my biggest challenge and I'm taking it a day at a time. Hope everyone here moving on their journey and your all on my davening . To a week of strength, and most importantly getting back up!!!

Thanks for sharing. I'm glad that's working for you and that your working for it!