MAZAL TOV! Thanks for sharing!

For those of us who work in NYC, and especially Manhattan, I cannot underscore the importance of developing a Seder when you arrive at work and leave for home. It is a Davar Yadua Umfursam that women's fashion during the summer is centered on "less is more." Think of using the blank stare that you have in the subway as you walk on a sidewalk or in your office past people who are inappropriately dressed. When you are on the subway or bus, always have a sefer, and/or a shiur you can listen to, so as to keep your mind on the proper things in life. If you find yourself having a fleeting glance at an inappropriately dressed woman, just turn your head, eyes and mind away as fast as it is humanly possible.

WOW thats great!!!!

KUTGW!!!!!

Believe it or not, I just passed my one year on the Wall of Honor. It wasn't easy, but I intend to keep checking in here and posting on a daily basis. As R Frand pointed out at the last Siyum HaShas,in a slightly different context, GYE serves as our liferaft whereby we can turn around and reanchor our lives. Without GYE, I wouldn't be writing this post today.

I chose this picture to show all the vicious predators (the triggers) which tried to attack you on your journey to this great day, and with Hashem's help and all the effort on your part, you stood up against all of them!

KEEP UP THE GREEEEEEEAT WORK!!!!

Mazel tov! kol hakavod!

Due to the Yamim Tovim. I don't have a lot of vacation time, but my wife who works on a NYC Board of Ed calendar is off for the next two weeks. She will be away from Monday to Thursday of both weeks , visiting the aineklach and visiting a cousin, which in the past would be a green light and a real trigger for me to go right down the rabbit holes of porn and masturbation. So far, I have been Tahor for more than one year. I hope that with the help of the chevra here , I can continue avoiding what would have been a real trigger.

my last few trips alone I found myself singin':
ain't it good to be free and free.
(free = alone; free from lust).

im sure you will be singin' dat same song.

b'hatzlachah

How true! Now, if there hadn't been a flood in our office from water damage on the floor above us compounded by a computer breakdown and a lousy commute this AM, a trigger would have been my first response!

Despite yesterday having an awful commute to work and being an awful day at work, I remain tahor. I know that one trigger can send me down the rathole of porn and masturbation into what can and will be an endless maze of tunnels that lead from one self destructive act to another and which make me forget what is important in life-a great family, friends and community

a belated MAZAL TOV! I have been busy/away, so I didn't see this until just now.

I also decided due to my age and increased weight and blood pressure, that I needed physical exercise. Swimming at a gender separated Y didn't work, and there was no way that i was going to go to a co-ed gym. I found a personal trainer who I have found was able to get me to move muscles that I hadn't moved in years. It is a once a week constructive outlet that leaves me no choice but to go right to sleep. The trainer is a young frum guy who is mellow in his approach ( not a drill sergeant type) and even plays classic mid 1960s-early 1970s so that I move at a determined pace.

It has been a slow few days since my boss is out of town and we had a major ceiling collapse in our office whoch sort of resembles Pearl Harbor. I just learned to avoid another website in terms of its POV on politics and culture, as well as its problematic pictures of "celebrities" after glancing at it twice. In the past that would have been an obvious trigger, but I am fighting such triggers every day.

My Eshes Chayil will be visiting a cousin out of town fountil Wednesday morning. That would have been a sufficient trigger in years past to resort to masturbation and porn. With the help of the chevra here, I think that I can resist the trigger.Without GYE. I would be going right down the rabbit hole.

Every summer,my wife, my dear aunt and I take a trip back to where i went to public elementary and high school for the purpose of visiting Kivrei Avos. It is a tough day as the local community is really a midbar except for the summer when it becomes a vacation center for the yeshiva and chasidic worlds. We always stop in a major outlet mall, and we make a contribution to the local economy. The mall itself is a small study in sociology-every ethnic group in all kinds of attire from the beach to Chasidishe families are looking for a buy and windown shopping. Being in such an environment followed by eating in a restuarant under fine hashgacha where many people do not dress in proper attire could have been a trigger in the past-but not yesterday. So far, with the help of the chevra here, and especially the daily messages, I remain Tahor and keep on working to remain Tahor.