Hi,

I am a frum 20 year old bochur and i have been suffering with lust addicition since i was 16! I have recently gone for therapy but i still cant seem to keep totally clean. I have fallen numerous time and my idea now is to post once i finally reach 90 days, i have started aain today and I am going to make it! Any suggetsions, please feel free

Welcome aboard!!

It's great that you're starting againm, and this time you'll have a whole bunch of friends and family at your side!!

The only suggestion I can make is that you try figuring out what is going to be different this time,

These questions may help:

What have you been doing to stop until now (and why haven't they worked)?

What led you to fall in the past, and how are you going to avoid them in the future?

Keep on posting, not only once you reach the 90 days, let us know how it's going the whole time.

We're all with you, KOMT!!!

Welcome to the forum.

What kind of tools are you using besides the 90 day chart?

Also for a suggestion you may want to think about posting more thanin just three months from now.How about once or twice a week to yourself accountable?


Hatzlacha

Welcome!
Love the username.

The way to stay totally clean is to stay totally clean.
Meaning, to stay far from all forms of lust, visual, mental, and of course physical.
It'a also important to spend time with real people doing real things.

Guard your eyes to the extreme. Guard you mind against fantasies. Be a good friend.

Have you tried that?

Hi,

Thanks everyone for your great suggestions of ways to stay clean, i am determined to do it!!! I will keep posting my progress every couple of days, I would love to hear about peoples personal experiences so that Ii can gain a chizuk and grow from them.
Thanks a mill!!

Read through the forum!

There are many personal experiences to be found!

WELCOME davewave! You have already gotten some good suggestions. What did your therapist say? Why are you seeing a therapist? Does anyone know about your acting out? Are you seeing a therapist for other reasons?

Feel free to answer or ignore any of my questions. There is a lot to learn here. Stick around. Post often. (i don't think anyone can call me a hypocrite for that advice )

Hi, I am seeing a therapist as I am only 20 and had severe lust issues (prostitution) It all came to a head and I realised I needed help, b h he has turned my life around but the strugle is still there, I have a partner on gye that knows about all my acting out and is constantly giving me chizuk, my therapist also knows about every time I act out, which b h is getting less often thanks to hashems help and thnaks to th wonderful gye family!

welcome and it should be bhatzlachah

let the therapist guide you

if not, open up a little here, so others can give advice

B h ive managed to keep clean since Tuesday, I need some tips on how to keep my chizuk even at times of nisyoines, i find sundays the hardest as theres less structure to my day..... any ideas?

Get involved in some project, excersize, do something with a friend. Volunteer for your shul. Just ideas, but the important thing is to STAY BUSY.

I must agree with you, empty times without structure are the most difficult, mostly because WE end up feeling empty and need to fill ourselves with something. What has worked for me is a combination of two things 1) write down a list of things that you could be and enjoy doing (they usually come to me right after I wasted the whole day) 2) Remind myself constantly "one moment at a time", do the right thing NOW, don't think about how you can't imagine really spending the whole day like this, you have to only deal with the second in front of you.

If all else fails I usually find myself chatting on GYE or to my GYE contacts on gmail

Hatzlacha and KOT!!!

Pidaini wrote:
So every time we talk im keeping u away from acting out? YAYYY!! I rock!!!

ROCKIN' AND ROLLIN'

you guys rock..... b h still clean!