A lot of guys in the past little while have broken their records, racking up 50 days, 5 days, whatever it is they are doing amazing work. Some of them have fallen and have gotten REALLY UPSET and then they end up falling again, and again.

In my mind this shows their true intentions. They want to count the days. they want to get to 90 days!!!!!!!!!! and feel amazing (truthfully it doesn't feel AMAZING, it feels just right , but not ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE AND SPIRITUAL!) So they focus on accumulating the days, battling and fighting up (uk, how stressful) But then they fall and they got so upset. They thought they were over it!!!!! Done! They beat this thing. Once and for all. .

This is focusing on not falling. I found that focusing on living is the true path to recovery. Without: fears, regrets, stresses, guilt. We just calmly live day by day, moment by moment in incredible tranquility. Relax, Breathe, Thank God Life is good. Look at the beautiful sky (or mountains, or water, or trees) that he creates for us. What a magnificent world!!!

Progress, not perfection. If we do fall, God forbid, thats ok, it happens. We cant change the past. We just have to dust ourselves off and pick ourselves up and keep on living (KOL) from the place we left off. Step by Step. Climbing higher and higher but always remembering where we came from. That we can go right back to where we were: a world full of trash that truly did not make us feel happy.

But this shouldn't plague our mind, because I am here right now and I am happy. Thank God. Thank God.

great post dms!!!

ok KOL!!!!

that really the name of the game!!!

I learned a lesson. I went to yeshiva for a short bit and learned for the majority of the day. When i came home i said i can do this! I can learn 2 hours a day!! And i did the past 2 days and I'm on pace today!

See, I have always sat down and said come on!! I can learn! I can learn! Ah Im scared! What if this? What if that? AHHH Maybe i cant? Oh no!.

See i think too much. So i decided lets learn in sections. 20 minutes here, 20 minutes there. And then i get there.

Nice and slow nice and slow!

Why do i limit myself? NO MORE LIMITATIONS!!!! (Bezras Hashem!)

Yo DMS !
Im with you on this all the way.
Im also single and surrounded by pretty girls at university and theres a tv and unfiltered computer in my house. I pray daily that those around us will recognise how serious the pervasiveness of society is on us and make our homes healthy and truly alive with good things.
Welcome to the world of baby steps. I look for the little moments that i see improvement.

Atzmosyosef
Absolutely! But this is no excuse for us. We cant put the blame on others. This is our problem and even though we are surrounded my shmutz, hot girls that wear nothing, etc, we have to work on ourselves.

So yes BABY STEPS!!! Or rather baby steps!!!

New avatar!!! yay!

I came up with a profound realization over the past few days. I am a little baby. Thats right. All i want is to whine and cry and get what i want. I want other people to give me what i want, anywhere, any time, always. Its all about the i. What do I want?

But i was speaking with NeedHelpNotJewish and he opened my eyes. He said "he will strive to get out of myself and be loving and giving to others around me, even if I don't "feel like it" at the time." wow!! Meaning i cant just be a baby and do whats best for me. Even if i feel like being a baby and don't feel like doing things for others, i still have to do what's necessary. I just have to do it.

I can't just be for myself and do what I always want to do. But even so what the "i" wants do isn't always the best for me. 'i" wants to look at beautiful women all day but is that what i really should be doing? Sure i don't feel like doing anything else but staring at woman all day but that isn't good for me. Nor will that get me the most pleasure



So Lets say bye to the i and say welcome to the you or we or them? Whatever the i has to go!

thanks Dms!!!

great post but can "I" reply by saying "I" liked it,

"I" guess "I" should write "WE" enjoyed the post,

that really was a "I" opener.

A small i is better because it comes with a dot.

But like has been said before: don't forget to dot it.

Reminds me of the joke where the teenage girl comes to school all black n' blue.
When the teacher asks what happened, the girl responds that she forgot to place the dot at the end of the sentence.
The teacher cried out in amazement: All that fuss cuz' you missed one period!?

cordnoy wrote:


Dot vuz ah goot vun!

MT

One of the stupidest jokes I've heard in my life. I have a bunch of Kashas on it.

glad you liked it.

dd
No, but you can say thank you. Guard set up the forums for this in fact reason. so we can concentrate on the "you" (as in Thank you) instead of the I as in "I like."

cordnoy
Cordnoy: EW! Shelo asani isha

dms1234 wrote:


ok thank you Dms!!!

DMS wrote: "you can say thank you". Guard set up the forums for this in fact reason. so we can concentrate on the "you" (as in Thank you) instead of the I as in "I like."


I (or should I (or we) say WE?] would like to point out that even when saying thank you, we precede the you with an "I" , as in modeh ANI lefanecha, in the very first thank-you of every day.