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Re: Somewhat New 30 Dec 2014 00:50 #246104

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Re: Somewhat New 30 Dec 2014 01:19 #246110

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Re: Somewhat New 30 Dec 2014 04:32 #246141

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Re: Somewhat New 30 Dec 2014 04:57 #246144

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Re: Somewhat New 31 Dec 2014 03:18 #246239

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Does anyone know if unanumun is chopped liver? With other's that have names and/or pictures I know, but if he's both nameless and pictureless......maybe he is...

Had my first "resanitizing" experience today since rejoining GYE. Was really aggravated about needing to change my perfect schedule and travel to a chasunah that I probably wouldn't enjoy, but somewhere in the middle of it all, I realized that I was going anyway, and I could either accept it and try to enjoy it or be miserable.

It happened to be a beautiful experience, even uplifting!!!

Thank You GYE, and thank You Hashem!!
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Re: Somewhat New 31 Dec 2014 07:22 #246265

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Was really aggravated about needing to change my perfect schedule and travel to a chasunah that I probably wouldn't enjoy,


Can anyone say.....
NEGATIVE PROGRAMMING?

Re: Somewhat New 31 Dec 2014 11:30 #246277

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Give me a break!! (or don't, it's a free country)

What's it gonna help if I know that it is negative programming anyway? It's not knowledge that is my problem, if anything I have too much of that, it's my unwillingness to accept reality that is my problem.

But anyway, thanks for the response, gives me something to respond to

Should I move back to my ladder yet? It's become quite the depressing place, no?
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Re: Somewhat New 31 Dec 2014 13:18 #246282

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Pidaini wrote:
Should I move back to my ladder yet? It's become quite the depressing place, no?


Since I'm in quoting mode, this reminds me of the promises the Big book assure us when we've worked the steps:


If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and selfpity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.

Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us — sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.


Hey, I gave you a day to settle in before I started annoying you again. Can't say fairer than that (my speech therapist is trying!)

Welcome home Yankel.

Re: Somewhat New 31 Dec 2014 19:20 #246292

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If you are aware that certain thoughts are negative programming, you can learn to stop them right away and replace them with positive programming.

You're already forecasting that you're going to hate something that hasn't even happened yet. You're not even giving yourself the chance to enjoy it.

But I'm not pushing you to do anything. It's all up to you.

Just pointing out what I see.
Last Edit: 31 Dec 2014 19:22 by skeptical.

Re: Somewhat New 01 Jan 2015 16:34 #246390

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Thank you for the welcome old friend (I never figured out what happened to our Dr. but that's ok)!!

Skeptical, what you write is true, especially the part about it all being up to me!!

Why does it have to be that way? Why can't someone else make the hard decisions for me? (Yes, I know what everyone is reminded of, "G-d take away the lust so that I don't have to give it up")

Why do I have to change my initial way of thinking if I want to be happy? Why do I have to take action if I want to be able to live a sane life and not be sucked into the lust hole?

I know that nobody can answer these questions, and that's just the way that Hashem created this world, but those are the thoughts that are holding me back from accepting that I'm human and from taking the little actions that have helped me in the past.
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Re: Somewhat New 01 Jan 2015 18:12 #246394

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Pidaini wrote:
I never figured out what happened to our Dr. but that's ok


I lost my license to diagnose other people.

Actually I never had the license, I just thought I did. Only G-d can diagnose others, I just thought I was G-d.

And now I find myself utterly powerless to resist a girl who came from a putrid drop and will end up as dust, who for one minute in her life felt like allowing someone to take an intimate photo of her. But G-d is all powerful. G-d is not be powerless over anything, much less something so fake. Ergo I am not G-d.

Re: Somewhat New 01 Jan 2015 18:23 #246395

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"powerless to resist a girl who came from a putrid drop and will end up as dust, who for one minute in her life felt like allowing someone to take an intimate photo of her". Wow. That's it, in 2 lines!

Re: Somewhat New 01 Jan 2015 19:27 #246400

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Pidaini wrote:
Why do I have to change my initial way of thinking if I want to be happy? Why do I have to take action if I want to be able to live a sane life and not be sucked into the lust hole?

I know that nobody can answer these questions, and that's just the way that Hashem created this world, but those are the thoughts that are holding me back from accepting that I'm human and from taking the little actions that have helped me in the past.


No chiddushim here, but "adam 'amal yulad."
There are no freebies.
Accordin' to some, that is even the DNA of the entire existence, for we abhor nahama diksufa.
That bein' said - even on the happiness level, we are happier with these actions. We might not see it every day or moment, but ask the people in the recovery process.
Heck; ask yourself.

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Re: Somewhat New 01 Jan 2015 20:24 #246408

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Why does it have to be that way? Why can't someone else make the hard decisions for me? (Yes, I know what everyone is reminded of, "G-d take away the lust so that I don't have to give it up")

Why do I have to change my initial way of thinking if I want to be happy? Why do I have to take action if I want to be able to live a sane life and not be sucked into the lust hole?


Because if they could do it, there would be no need for you.

Re: Somewhat New 02 Jan 2015 06:24 #246446

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Hey dude. Welcome back. I never saw that first post of yours. You're adorable, you know? Good luck letting all the guys fix you. Love you!
אלא יש לו לייחד כל מעשיו לשמו הגדול לבד, ולא ישתף עמו דבר אחר
That's the goal. The key to everything. Working on it, bs"d.
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