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Re: The mouse being honest 18 Aug 2015 15:50 #262103

an honest mouse Current streak: 13 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 600 Karma: 6	it's gevaldig to see the Zemy giraffe again! How are you doing?

Re: The mouse being honest 18 Aug 2015 18:23 #262131

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	i sent you an electronic transmission of text aka email
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Re: The mouse being honest 19 Aug 2015 21:27 #262310

Blind Beggar OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Not a sexaholic, just trying to be good. Posts: 780 Karma: 12	an honest mouse wrote: Thanks Cordnoy and Bigmoish. Cordnoy - I tried the link but it tells me I don't have permission to access the page... I had the same problem. How can we not have permission to see a page? Zemmy, you are a moderator. We are waiting.
	The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars. If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look. I can guard my eyes. I want to guard my eyes. I do guard my eyes. Why do I say these four lines?

Re: The mouse being honest 19 Aug 2015 21:28 #262311

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Blind Beggar wrote:

an honest mouse wrote:

Thanks Cordnoy and Bigmoish.

Cordnoy - I tried the link but it tells me I don't have permission to access the page...

I had the same problem. How can we not have permission to see a page? Zemmy, you are a moderator. We are waiting.

My apologies; that entire thread was deleted.

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Re: The mouse being honest 19 Aug 2015 21:36 #262312

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	Blind Beggar wrote: an honest mouse wrote: Thanks Cordnoy and Bigmoish. Cordnoy - I tried the link but it tells me I don't have permission to access the page... I had the same problem. How can we not have permission to see a page? Zemmy, you are a moderator. We are waiting. i couldn't access that page either, even with my magical moderator powers now go play tetris
	Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise ~Inna beshem ZS Give, Forgive ~Cordnoy The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting. ~TZ

Re: The mouse being honest 20 Aug 2015 22:43 #262440

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when you're struggling with a real person in your life, it takes a lot of work to find the right balance between not going out of your way to see her/spend time with her on the one hand and avoiding them at all costs on the other.

I think to zealously avoid them altogether continues to feed the impression that she is special, that she is somehow more powerful than an ordinary human. The trick, I believe, is not be scared of having to interact with her (if necessary), to view her as a normal human being who is not a goddess. As Rashi says in this week's sedra (somewhere in shishi) 'techilas nefila, nisa - the beginning of a fall is running scared'. Just be normal!

This balance is something that I am struggling with this week...

Last Edit: 20 Aug 2015 22:46 by an honest mouse.

Re: The mouse being honest 20 Aug 2015 23:14 #262441

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Depending on the circumstances, I think that a rigorous program is necessary, especially if one has no choice but to see the goddess of his fantasies on a pretty regular basis.

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Re: The mouse being honest 21 Aug 2015 05:58 #262467

Blind Beggar OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Not a sexaholic, just trying to be good. Posts: 780 Karma: 12	an honest mouse wrote: The trick, I believe, is not be scared of having to interact with her (if necessary), to view her as a normal human being who is not a goddess. One thing I learned from Dov is not to deify women and grant them the power to control us. I don't know why Zemmy said to play Tetris. Perhaps it's because of this Tetris for Sex Addicts.
	The Blind Beggar is a character in Rebbe Nachman's story of the Seven Beggars. If I view a woman as an object, I am powerless over lust, but I don't have to look. I can guard my eyes. I want to guard my eyes. I do guard my eyes. Why do I say these four lines?

Re: The mouse being honest 21 Aug 2015 14:43 #262483

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Blind Beggar wrote:

an honest mouse wrote:

The trick, I believe, is not be scared of having to interact with her (if necessary), to view her as a normal human being who is not a goddess.

One thing I learned from Dov is not to deify women and grant them the power to control us.

I don't know why Zemmy said to play Tetris. Perhaps it's because of this Tetris for Sex Addicts.

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Re: The mouse being honest 21 Aug 2015 15:08 #262488

an honest mouse Current streak: 13 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 600 Karma: 6	Blind Beggar, what you bring from Dov is exactly what I was getting at, thanks for putting it more clearly!
	Last Edit: 21 Aug 2015 15:09 by an honest mouse.

Re: The mouse being honest 31 Aug 2015 21:14 #262990

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Re: The mouse being honest 24 Sep 2015 22:58 #264590

an honest mouse Current streak: 13 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 600 Karma: 6	Hi guys, just wanted to share that I went to my 1st live meeting tonight. It was such a powerful experience, I only wish I had done it a long time ago! I will certainly be going back for more pG.

Re: The mouse being honest 25 Sep 2015 12:12 #264638

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9494 wrote:

AWWWSOME!!

And even more awesomer to have an 'oldtimer' back with us!

I think the former is more awesome....B'hatzlachah.....that is super news in recovery steps (although I'm saddened that it got to that point).

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Re: The mouse being honest 25 Sep 2015 14:44 #264658

gibbor120 OFFLINE Platinum Boarder NEVER EVER GIVE UP! Posts: 5251 Karma: 166	Please keep us posted!
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Re: The mouse being honest 25 Sep 2015 15:09 #264663

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	wow kol hakavod!
	Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise ~Inna beshem ZS Give, Forgive ~Cordnoy The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting. ~TZ