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Re: Chaim's Oigen 25 Jul 2025 15:55 #439430

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chaimoigen wrote on 16 Jul 2025 16:08:

Look at the aspects of your life that give you Chiyus, pleasure, meaning and value, and focus on increasing those things and aspects without the distraction of escape into the drug of lusting. You should start seeing added benefits.


What if there isn't anything that gives me chiyus, pleasure, meaning, and value? Or if there are some things but they are expensive, time consuming, culturally frowned upon, out of my control, or otherwise unavailable?

You made me think about the fact that I'm constantly numbing myself, whether with lust, stam web browsing, podcasts and radio, etc., and I can't think of any way to replace that.

Re: Chaim's Oigen 25 Jul 2025 16:52 #439431

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birshusi wrote on 25 Jul 2025 15:55:
What if there isn't anything that gives me chiyus, pleasure, meaning, and value? Or if there are some things but they are ... time consuming, culturally frowned upon, ...?



Why not start here. Think how much time is wasted online and is ruining your life vs the time consuming, culturally frowned upon...break free my friend.

Re: Chaim's Oigen 25 Jul 2025 20:06 #439442

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birshusi wrote on 25 Jul 2025 15:55:

chaimoigen wrote on 16 Jul 2025 16:08:

Look at the aspects of your life that give you Chiyus, pleasure, meaning and value, and focus on increasing those things and aspects without the distraction of escape into the drug of lusting. You should start seeing added benefits.


What if there isn't anything that gives me chiyus, pleasure, meaning, and value? Or if there are some things but they are expensive, time consuming, culturally frowned upon, out of my control, or otherwise unavailable?

You made me think about the fact that I'm constantly numbing myself, whether with lust, stam web browsing, podcasts and radio, etc., and I can't think of any way to replace that.

Strongly relate to this. Listen to some of Dov's recordings about the 12 steps idea of surrender. Life's too meaningful to be constantly trying to run away. It's possible to learn to accept it instead.
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