due to the various stiras people have asked in my posts i want to clarify my position
[feel free to argue, but at least know the beast you are fighting]

There are 2 issues we frum yidden deal with.
Lust and Aveiros
When the 2 subjects get confused on these forums I get confused too.
Rating the aviros scale has little to do with sobriety [eg pilegesh vs mz"l]
similarly dosh bifnim vzore bachuz has little to do with recovery.

of course as frum yidden we wanna keep halacha, but we have to be clear if the issue is lust or halacha.
for example if i am scared of the dark, having sex in the day has nothing to do with lust

i was annoyed at a post rating aveiros, instead of treating the disease [see that thread how i clarified an alternative way of phrasing the point]
similarly i quoted a post of difrenchiating between addicts and baalie taavo

however on the thread when someone asked a halachik shaalo - clearly NOT fueled by lust - I i see no reason not to post a GYE article. The poor guy is traumatized from all the machmir sh*ttos, when all he was looking for some direction.
The post I quoted didn't even say its preferable, just gave some context and he can approach it in a manner that is suitable for him.

Why are we all getting bogged down thst he might ch"v be miekel in a derabbanan??

i hope this is clear

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being serious about recovery doesn't mean we cant have fun [who of you can brag that he hasn't touched his penis in almost 50 days when his wife is a nidda after birth and he has a plethora of girls he could sleep with at whim?]

parev wrote on 20 Jan 2025 01:39:

Yeah the bolded part is just very likely not true and what confused people.

But the clarification makes sense.

see #429586