sorry bout the lack of posts the past 2 days... i did not have access 

I had this deal going with my Rosh Yeshiva that i can hace my laptop at certain times as long as i keep it in one of the offices during the other times... now i never got the key so eventually i ended up keeping it in my room. Recently someone was trying to get something from my Rosh Yeshiva and he said the fateful words of "but he has a laptop...." so now it's trouble... I'm just venting and I'm currently working on a  solution but its getting me annoyed.



I like being able to access GYE whenever i need that chizzuk



I dont like the feeling of limited time slots...



whatever...

you called?

Aight we back on. We are on day 20!!!! One day until 3 weeks!!!!

THREE WEEKS!!!!! I never believed I would make it past 5 days…. It’s actually insane!!!!

Anyone has suggestions for me to stop looking at random girls in the street? I’m not even looking at them in a lust way usually just looking at them…

Keep it up your amazing

joetyh wrote on 07 Feb 2022 07:18:

The first look isn't a problem, it's only when you continue looking that the issue begins. So if you're "just looking" for the first second is fine, after that it's הסתכלות. Obviously, if that first look is lusting, it's also a problem

From the GYE Wiki:

• When I am in the street and I see something, I know that I need to find something else to look at immediately, no questions asked. Then when the urge comes to have a second look I try to take a few deep breaths and think about what will happen if I don't look again. It's sometimes hard to look away but I won't have to look at the sidewalk forever, as with most things, gam zeh ya'avor. This is not very difficult when I am strong, but when I am in a lustful state or feeling down emotionally it's very difficult to put up the fight. When I am seeking, and then I see something, it's like "mazal tov I can now feed this monster..." obviously makes it that much harder to look away. For this the only thing that works for me is to decide before I go out that even though I am not feeling my best, this is yehoreg v'al ya'avor, this takes priority. It doesn't always work but nothing else has worked better. #wilnevergiveup[2]
• There is a saying here. The first look is on G-d the second look is on you. #Hakolhevel[3]
• As for walking in the street, I'v found if you ignore and dont linger on a sight, it cant control you. If you're in a pretty bad part of the neighborhood (e.x. Manhattan) then try to walk looking down, yeah yeah "I look so stupid", "that's not for me, thats for the big Gedolim". Say whatever you want but it works #Meyer M.[4]
• The eyes and mind are the two most important filters there are. Yes, you will see attractive women and some of the time they will be dressed immodestly, but it's how you react that will make all the difference. As addicts, we tend to fixate on things we shouldn't, we tend to think that if we look away we might be missing out on something... but the truth is there is no real enjoyment to be had from this filth! The sooner I realized that and the more clearer that has become, the better and longer I've remained sober. #Haleivi76

wiki.guardyoureyes.com/Shmiras_Einayim#:~:text=Shmiras%20Einayim,-Jump%20to%20navigation

Hey guys!!!
Rabbi Stark has an amazing speech to listen to 
it is looong but crazy powerful 

https://youtu.be/NooTFvpuUus

It was incredible. You can hear it by calling 848-777-4769, then press 1, followed by #. There is a short introduction from Coach Menachem. The actual program begins after a few minutes.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-get-real-with-coach-menachem/id1515410160?i=1000550270120

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3xuCtA1cOHVaBP1lhnbGx6?si=XU1bFeP6SPm2JBBL7DRE8A

all the same speech 

joetyh wrote on 07 Feb 2022 20:20:

Thank you! Yes it’s INCREDIBLE!!!! Definitely share it around! All the ripple effects will be in your zchus!

22 days!!!! We are on the way to 4 weeks!!!!
yesterday was a little hard… I was chilling in my room and I had this crazy urge thinking back to how good it felt but I would have to be crazy to give in…. So I hopped on a bus and went to the kosel to pray a little and was out for like 2 hours connecting with people and God…. 
Thank you Hashem for another day clean!!!

joetyh wrote on 08 Feb 2022 07:06:

Nice!! Keep it up!!

Hey guys firstly it’s day 23!!!! We are getting close enough to be able to smell day #30!!!!
Last night was a little rough I got triggered from some profile picture on WhatsApp…. And I started trying to find pictures to look at (and I unfortunately did but thank god not actual Pornography) but I B”H caught myself and was able to turn my phone off and go to sleep….
I am looking for some sort of accountability software that will work for the entire iPhone to prevent this from happening again…. 
There is just one issue. Most of these webchaver kind of softwares do not have access to monitor anything outside their app on iOS.
if anyone has any info or a filter that will work well (I may have to get rid of my Apple Watch if they can’t filter it)

joetyh wrote on 09 Feb 2022 15:22:

thekosheros.com/