I posted this on the GYE WhatsApp group

”Because that little piss off voice in my head is trying to convince me that the 23 days are in the garbage and I am a bad person and how could I fall so low….”

And Dov responded with an amazing message 

“Of course it's terribly upsetting to lose a streak. But of course the 23 days are in the garbage. Yesterday's always in the garbage if we're looking for 'momentum' to carry us through. Because as chazal tell us in many places today is the day that matters, not yesterday. There has to be an actual change in our approach and values, for goid things to persist.”

I than asked 

“…I need help not sexualizing every girl or woman on the street. I wish they can be just like telephone polls….”

To which he responded 

“Women in the street are not random telephone poles. 

They are random people.”
”That's a good place to start.”
”The entire romantic drama of pretending that I'm in the middle of a giant fight pretty much sets us up for complete failure.”

I just figured I’d share this. It really hit me.

joetyh wrote on 10 Feb 2022 01:28:

Sorry to hear that you feel that you messed up. 
You're asking "what's the point?" 
The point is that you're a normal human being and we all have ups and downs. Almost no one quits cold turkey. You're in a process of recovery and you're actually doing GREAT! 
23 clean days!!! celebrate it! 

Now there's one thing to do, dust off and continue you're AMAZING sucessful battle! Hashem is waiting to see more nachas for you...

With apple screen time your designated “parent” can see what apps you use for how long and what websites you visited and how much time you spent on them irregardless of browsers. You probably know this but maybe you have other apps on your phone that you shouldn’t have, in which case you have to delete them like you did for a few apps you mentioned above. If it bothers you to have such unrestricted internet access I suggest you monitor your history to see what websites you normally visit and add them and maybe a few more you may need. I’ll be more happy than to drop my allowed websites list below. It includes secular websites like fedex that you may need to religious websites. 

If you do that you’ll have accountability and a good filter. That’s the set up I have for my iPhone and it’s going great. Your right about the covenant eyes browser being trash though, I still use safari and I only have covenant eyes for the vpn which tracks background website activity. 

This really is the best option for you because apple is privacy first so you wouldn’t be able to get the complete accountability you’re looking for aside from using apple screen time.

Bilaam Harasha to Yosef Hatzaddik wrote on 10 Feb 2022 16:02:

I B”H have no apps on my phone that I shouldn’t (besides for games that I shouldn’t have because I’m freakin 22 I should get a life lol)
and my website list doesn’t even have fedex….
I want a filter cuz I am too restricted but I’m scared to open up websites because that means they are fully open….

Here's my list of links that I allowed for myself on iphone through apple screen time. Feel free to add on but don't add any sites that are as follows: google.com/slides or whatever This is because for whatever reason apple screentime allows you to access google.com, the search engine, if you add sites like that even though your intention is only to use those services like google drive or whatever. I found out the hard way and I had to remove all the websites in that format to get rid of this loophole. By allowing a search engine like that you allow for yourself to look up pictures that you shouldn't look at and apple doesn't block it whatsoever if you do this.

torah.org/
alldaf.org/
optimum.net/
fedex.com/
yourshiur.com/
halachipedia.com/index.php?title=Main_Page
halachipedia.com/ 
torahanytime.com/
sefaria.org/texts
sefaria.org/
yadlachim.org/
halachashiur.com/
ou.org/
aish.edu/
idf.il/en
pizmonim.org/
ups.com/
f2f.guardyoureyes.org/join
guardyoureyes.com/
allparsha.org/
artscroll.com/
korenpub.com/
learntefillah.com/
chabad.org/
desmos.com/
aish.com/
alephbeta.org/
itorah.com/
jewsforjudaism.org/
translate.google.com/
outorah.org/
torahlive.com/
feldheim.com/
yeshiva.co/
beta.kehot.com/
usps.com/
f2f.guardyoureyes.org/
darkeabotenou.com/
mangolanguages.com/
store.kehotonline.com/
webchaver.org/
theshmuz.com/
www.yeshiva.co/
increaseyourtrustingod.com/
projectlikkuteisichos.org/
breslev.com/
allmishnah.org/
www.rabbis.org/
oujlic.org/
venishmartem.com/

Hope this helps. 

Day 1!!!! 

Yes! Here goes Joetyh! Picking himself up and getting #higher

Just a little thought I had.
I was zocheh to make a siyum yesterday with my Daf Yomi Chaburah and while I was saying the הדרן something popped out at me. It says אנו עמלים והם עמלים, אנו עמלים ומקבלים שכר הם עמלים ואינם מקבלים שכר. And I thought hey this is me. If the only point is the end goal than I’m nothing but as a Yid every day is something even if I don’t get to my goal I still git 23 days under my bank account 

joetyh wrote on 11 Feb 2022 12:29:

And as advised by DavidT, celebrate those 23 days - just as we celebrate a siyum. It will give you the push to make more siyumim....

Hashem Help Me wrote on 11 Feb 2022 12:33:

#moresushi #celebrateandrollon

Day 3!!!
we have a chazaka.
I got a Gentech filter installed on my iPhone last night but the guy who set it up clearly had no idea what he was doing because when I ran my test I got straight onto a bad website (I didn’t watch anything just checked if it opened) so I put Apple restrictions back on hopefully Gentech can help me  today when they wake up….

You are a hero! How many of us, after realizing the filter was off would not find some excuse to "just test the filter a little more"?  By the way, did it get fixed?

Yes this afternoon I got an email from them saying it’s fixed so I made sure it was with a trusted friend before taking off the Apple restrictions. (I still left them on for limiting adult content just in case..)

They fixed it so well that half my apps (including WhatsApp) don’t work now …. I gotta wait for them to respond to that 

but  as I always say “a couple seconds of annoyance from the filter will be so much more enjoyable than the hours of no filter…..”

joetyh wrote on 13 Feb 2022 14:04:

Firstly, wow! Your amazing. Keep it up! 
If I can just add, I think the mindset should be that regardless of the filter or not. Access or not. We’re gonna stay strong.. and we have to asks ourselves why? And that’s upon each individual to answer! If we  don’t feel this way.. we’re allowing our filters to fight for us which never has shown long term success. 

Day 4!!!!
went to bed earlyish last night because I told my friend that he should hold my smartphone at nights or if he’s not available I’ll just turn it off @ 12.
I spent about 2 hours on the phone with Gentech last night because the tzaddik in TAG installed the filter the wrong way so it wasn’t really functioning properly (first nothing was blocked than everything was blocked….) but B”H with Hashem’s help we were able to fix it over the phone…. (Thanks Indian fellow!!!!) 
Now we are on project filter my mind!!!!

#MindFilter

so 3 more days till a week!!!!