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Re: making the silent battle...not. 19 Sep 2012 19:37 #145066

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Welcome back SB!
Sorry things are so difficult for you.
For some of us, our wives finding out (or being told) about this side of our lives has been helpful to the relationship. For others it hasn't. Alot to do the various personalities involved and the relationship.

Wishing you your best year yet -- in ruchnios, recovery, and in your relationships. (and parnossa too -- farvohs nisht? :)

Alex

Re: making the silent battle...not. 19 Sep 2012 19:44 #145067

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Hi SB, welcome back!

Gmar Chasima Tova and hatzlacha in all things!

KOMT!!!

Gevura!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant


My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: making the silent battle...not. 20 Sep 2012 00:46 #145072

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Hi, I am sorry that this is happening to you.

That is what a guy told me when my wife threw me out of the house, I spent three days here and two days there, I lived on tzedaka, and my kids would way to me from the car when my wife drove by me in the street.

Of all the things that happened to me then that is the one thing that truly made me feel better, not the mussar, not the hope that life will get better, just those few sincere words.

I am sorry that this is happening to you.

Re: making the silent battle...not. 20 Sep 2012 02:00 #145077

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Thank you, Eye :-)

AlexEliezer - amen, and the same to you, many times over, in every area!

Nederman - thank you, although in that sense, things aren't so bad - more in the internal sense, of the fact that I've taken a few bad wrong turns, and I'm working on getting back on track. Reaching out is the first step, and reaching in, too - to myself, making sure I stay in touch with how I'm doing.

Re: making the silent battle...not. 21 Sep 2012 04:05 #145133

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Working on closing the cans of worms I opened...well, not so much closing them as walking away from them, moving forward.

I need to remember that I learned new habits, new approaches and perspectives on life - more honest ones, more true ones, that make me happier.

No one else can impact what I should be doing, what I need to do. Yeah, that's a separate point, and kinda random, but no less true for that.

Re: making the silent battle...not. 23 Sep 2012 05:36 #145181

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Trying to work on shmiras einayim. It's almost scary how much I've gotten used to not doing that, it's like learning a new way of living. Again.

And it feels good. I need to remind myself of that. I AM much happier this way.

Re: making the silent battle...not. 11 Oct 2012 16:56 #145903

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Chaver Silentbattle,


You know how to contact me....

Re: making the silent battle...not. 18 Oct 2012 06:32 #146315

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How are you doing Silent

May I just say that I hold you in high respect and that your posts helped me every time to stay sober. Just looking at your ninja picture gives me strength ;D

I even put the soundtrack of Bruce Lee's Game of Death. Just hearing that music makes want to jump up and down and scream waaaaaaaaoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

Bruce Lee would say: To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person. waaoooooooooooiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiaaa

Love

-Michael

Re: making the silent battle...not. 06 Nov 2012 00:43 #147289

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I really want to stay active...and...and...I could go on all day. But the fact that I haven't posted in weeks shouldn't stop me from posting now.

Things are...well, they could be worse. My social life is practically non-existent, which doesn't help, but isn;t an excuse for making myself miserable or doing stupid things.

Note to self - will the choice you're about to make numb the pain, or make you feel better?

Re: making the silent battle...not. 06 Nov 2012 03:10 #147291

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I can't say that I know your pain because I'm not in your place, but I hear your pain.

Hashem, please give SB the koach he needs to deal with his challange.

-Eli

Re: making the silent battle...not. 07 Nov 2012 05:25 #147376

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Hi, spooky-ninja-bo-wielding-guardiani dude!
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: making the silent battle...not. 07 Nov 2012 15:47 #147391

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Hi SB,

Nice to hear from you again!

Re: making the silent battle...not. 08 Nov 2012 05:36 #147433

  • reallygettingthere
dov wrote on 07 Nov 2012 05:25:

Hi, spooky-ninja-bo-wielding-guardiani dude!


Are you sure that's a bo? I thought it was just a sword being unsheathed.

Re: making the silent battle...not. 08 Nov 2012 18:07 #147474

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Ooh, a karateka here! Yes, you are probably right....but SB is so good and so ninja-wu-tangy that he can hide a bo inside his sword.

He's cool like that.

8)
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: making the silent battle...not. 09 Nov 2012 04:28 #147509

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dov wrote on 08 Nov 2012 18:07:

Ooh, a karateka here! Yes, you are probably right....but SB is so good and so ninja-wu-tangy that he can hide a bo inside his sword.

He's cool like that.

8)


I am in awe (eyes wide open jaw dropped)
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