Dear gye members,

I am craving to have friends to spend some time with doing a hobby sport etc..besides the one i learn with or see which usually dont have time because of there work and children.how do I go about it? and this could of course help me with my addiction.

u do have time or don't have time I didn't understand?

I think he means that his current friends don't have time so he's looking for new ones.

Moshe, how about you tell us a little more about yourself, in what general area you are located etc. and hopefully someone will make contact with you.

Hatzlacha!

I have a similar problem. Most of my friends are either in EY or moved to a cheaper area. Even the ones in my area I barely see as everyone's busy. Other than in the beis medrash I basically don't see anyone I know.

Then sometimes my wife will ask if we can have so-and-so over for a meal and I have to say no cos she's attractive and will make me fall.

People are very busy.
I agree with you that it is very important to have friends.
Try talking to someone you think you might relate to at a kiddush, sholom zochor or whatever. If you see you have what to talk about, ask him if he'd like to get together some weeknight, or maybe for melave malka and just shmooze, or have a beer if you like beer. You'll be surprised at the response. You're not the only one in the frum community who would like to have a friend to just hang out with once in a while. We're all so busy and caught up with our work and families.

i live in the midwest

thank you for your response i do have in mind about someone that is the type that i could relax with but i am a little of a mentor/rebbi figure to him

I have tried with married people even to have some time with me but they hardly have time maybe it will be good to connect with someone not married my age?

sorry for so many posts i just want to add something i dont want to come to that i will connect with someone where i work who is not jewish

The way I met friends here on GYE was through the chatrooms. You can start chatting with people, getting to know each other and once you gain each other's trust, you can exchange telephone numbers.

I've made many friends that way, and I BH have quite a network of guys I can call when ever I feel the need.

Making friends while married? haha. I can't even make friends while single.

moshe - u like sports? if so, maybe try to find some guys like u and/or just join a gym, play some ball, even watch some sports

strugglingguy wrote:

I assume you mean little league games at the park. It is spring traning y'know .

I don't recommend watching anything on TV, unless it's a potted plant sitting on a broken TV .

i mainly meant basketball
hmm... well guys like us look at other stuff, as we all know, so maybe sports on tv is actually a worthwhile idea (to try) ... i guess it may depend where you are holding or your outlook on this whole deal...

I assume you mean the kind of basketball that has no commercials (or commercials with only men in them) and no cheerleaders. Can you tell me what channel that's on? I'd like to watch too