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Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 12 Feb 2013 00:29 #202079

help613
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A social worker has a amazing character traits that some girls dream of !
Your probably caring and happy to listen to someone's problems.

You have to believe in yourself more, and market yourself differently ! Also,
don't try and get the 6" super slim blond blue eye girl who just really cares about what her friends will think of you, try find the pretty out of towner whos bursting with quality and personality ! Im always here for you !

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 12 Feb 2013 00:54 #202080

egghead30 OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 7 Karma: 0	The out of owners don't want me either. Even unattractive girls don't really want me. I live a very lonely life. Im the nebuch of my town and it 100% because of my looks

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 12 Feb 2013 16:11 #202108

help613 OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 27 Karma: 0	I don't believe you ! Trust me, I've been around the block and know girls very well. People will you only believe and trust in you once you do in yourself ! Make sure your clean and tidy looking, dress neatly and just show you care ! Acting out just comes from not believing in yourself ! Try it and keep us posted !!

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 13 Feb 2013 02:57 #202140

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Dear well-meaning help613 guy,

It does not sound to me that Egghead is 'acting out', at all! I think he is just entertaining himself. So? What does that have to do with acting out? Can you or I blame him?

Would any of us have gotten the help we need to stop one day at a time, if porning and having sex with ourselves was not hurting us enough, first? No, we would not have.

So let him alone, I say. Why try to take away the one thing he comforts himself with, if none of us would have done the same?

- Dov

"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 13 Feb 2013 08:29 #202154

egghead30 OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 7 Karma: 0	My masturbation habit is due to me trying to comfort myself and fill the void that I don't have due to my lack of attention/affection from women.

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 13 Feb 2013 09:02 #202156

Dov
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I know all about aveiros, tum'ah, etc. If you know all about that aspect of the masturbation and porn, too, then all that means is that those facts don't stop you. So I ask you:

If you see that using the porn and masturbating yourself are comforting you, then why are you really trying to give it up? Are you really interested in giving it up?

Let's please not leave 'obvious' things unspoken - for the facts are not really as they seem to us, even about ourselves. I am asking you straightforward questions.

"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 13 Feb 2013 15:19 #202162

melost
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help613 wrote:

Thanks guys ! I really appreciate it ! Sorry, I really was not trying to differentiate and make your struggles sound less serious, but I often feel that halachik and spiritual things help me overcome my temptations.. And thats why I was looking for someone closer to my suffering !

Why can't H' just make me strong enough and give me the clarity I need to realize all this attention is poison for me !!

sorry i was wrong it is more diffcult in an enviorement were u speak with girls, in contect ,

avrohom

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 14 Feb 2013 06:09 #202202

egghead30 OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 7 Karma: 0	I should point out I have masturbated in 92 days

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 14 Feb 2013 06:14 #202203

gevura shebyesod
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I presume you meant to say "have not".

!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant

My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 14 Feb 2013 17:52 #202214

egghead30 OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 7 Karma: 0	lol yes. Havent

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 14 Feb 2013 21:23 #202231

melost Current streak: 4 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 206 Karma: 4	egghead30 wrote: lol yes. Havent oh that sounds better that amazing
	avrohom

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 15 Feb 2013 00:37 #202258

help613 OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 27 Karma: 0	I am so happy to hear that ! Keep it up !

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 15 Feb 2013 02:49 #202279

mr. emunah Current streak: 121 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1139 Karma: 43	thumbs up!

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 15 Feb 2013 03:45 #202286

Dov OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 1960 Karma: 383	Dear Egghead - that's great, but what is your point, chaver? Is there something you are trying to quit doing or to learn to do better in your life? You write about how bad your situation is - so? What's your point here and now? Please clarify so we can share helpful things with you.
	"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: looking for guys struggling with actual people 08 Apr 2013 20:26 #204497

help613 OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 27 Karma: 0	I have been doing really well the passed few weeks until recently when I had a slip up which I highly regret, but the main problem is, since that slip up every night I have been waking up with wet dreams !! I don't know what it is !! Ive been completely clean every night and day, and since that slip up BAM !! Any advice ? Love ya all !!