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Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 15 Aug 2012 14:39 #143731

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E-Tek wrote on 15 Aug 2012 03:44:

Eliezer, the date I mentioned DID ask directly, as a result of the Binah article about the dangers of the internet that she had read. So I answered her with a half truth of sorts, and that was enough, even though we were far enough along that the shadchan was planning the lechaim.

Please correct, comment, complain, care, or smile.
Meir

I'll care and smile. :-*

?דער באשעפער לאווט מיך אייביג. וויפיל לאוו איך עהם
My Creator loves me at all times. How great is my love for him?

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 15 Aug 2012 15:15 #143736

AlexEliezer OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1933 Karma: 55	ChaimCharlie wrote on 15 Aug 2012 13:09: My 2 cents about the lost shidduch -- You didn't marry her because she is not your bashert, it's that simple....it's her loss. My thoughts exactly. Nu. She asked. Vat yu gunnu du? That which doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Hatzlocha rabbo in your dating. Your bashert is out there and Hashem will orchestrate it b'ito uv'zmano with all its pratim.

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 15 Aug 2012 18:45 #143746

rt Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 260 Karma: 0	Dear Chaim and reb Eli. What do you mean with "it's her loss". hee?? If she is not Meir's bashert, so he is not her bashert either, isn't he? So it's a luck for both.

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 16 Aug 2012 15:17 #143803

AlexEliezer OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1933 Karma: 55	You're right. Good point.

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 16 Aug 2012 21:59 #143829

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TehillimZugger wrote on 15 Aug 2012 14:39:

I'll care and smile. :-*

A belated thanks for that.
:D

Hi everyone!!
B"H everything is good, although busy enough to make me want to scream (generally at the people who aren't doing their part, leaving more work for me. I surrender that).

Fiftysomething days, with Hashem's help.

Hatzlacha, all!
Meir

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 17 Aug 2012 12:15 #143851

rt Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 260 Karma: 0	Well, hatzlocho in doing other's work a gitten shabbes, Meir

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 17 Aug 2012 13:23 #143860

E-Tek Current streak: 25 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 317 Karma: 1	GOOD SHABBOS GYE!!!! A FREILICHEN PURIM!!!!!! Meir

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 17 Aug 2012 14:08 #143864

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OK, I'll bite...

WHAT??!!

!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant

My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 17 Aug 2012 14:56 #143873

AlexEliezer OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1933 Karma: 55	For sure he means that since Elul is the lead-up to Yom Kippur, which is Yom K'Purim...

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 17 Aug 2012 15:08 #143877

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	הה"ד ZemirosShabbos wrote on 29 Jun 2012 16:14: רבש"ע למה מדוע אין לנו פורים פעמיים בשבוע - Shakespeare
	Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise ~Inna beshem ZS Give, Forgive ~Cordnoy The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting. ~TZ

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 17 Aug 2012 18:35 #143888

shteeble OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 2024 Karma: 30	sounds interesting.
	some of my threads

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 17 Aug 2012 20:50 #143897

E-Tek Current streak: 25 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 317 Karma: 1	והמבין יבין. Sorry, can't say more. Have a great Shabbos! (Post edited for being too identifying.) Meir

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 19 Aug 2012 02:31 #143903

E-Tek Current streak: 25 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 317 Karma: 1	A Gut Voch. Elul is Roshei Teivos "Ish L'rei'eihu Umatanos LaEvyonim".

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 23 Aug 2012 22:48 #144118

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Hi, everybody. I'm reporting a fall.
This two month streak is probably my longest since I discovered m***. I have no regrets, other than the fall itself. It really isn't the number of days that matter... Hashem helped, every time I asked him. This time I didn't, and this is the result. And anyway, He saved me a few times when my resolve was weak. So it certainly aint MY count, per se.

I'm looking forward to a new zman, with a full day of learning to enjoy, and a minimizing of bittul zman of all kinds, and a daily shacharis at the proper time with a good 1.5 hours before sof zman krias shma, and good chevra and good chavrusas, and no girls at my worksite (which took two months to lead to a fall, anyway).

Also looking forward to winter zman in the Mir in Yerushalayim. (Stam, just saying that.) However, it should be noted that I will have internet access seldom and for short periods, so I do not expect to be able to post on GYE at that time, for an unforseeable future that I hope will last a long time. Therefore, I am putting out a request to be put in contact with the heilige GYE Chevra that live in Yerushalayim, so that I will be able to communicate with you, and I feel that is imperative for my recovery.

I was hit hard below the belt a few days ago, as I discovered that someone who I know fairly well is separate from his wife and kid- because he is an addict. I hope he is on GYE, and I daven he will find it soon if he isn't. My heart foes out to his wife... It is possible that this info led to my fall, too, but I take full responsibility regardless.

I am looking forward to not being busy 24/7 with responsibilities that throw my daily schedule (read: sleep) out of wack.

Hatzlacha, everybody. Have a wonderful, meaningful Elul, and a clean day!!
(In case anyone misunderstood, I can be on GYE UNTIL about Sukkos, and from there my visits will be sporadic at best. I will BL"N keep a diary to post when I DO get on.)

Meir

Re: Not Counting... But Anyway... 24 Aug 2012 13:29 #144144

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Wow, how different people are.

I was hit hard below the belt a few days ago, as I discovered that someone who I know fairly well is separate from his wife and kid- because he is an addict. I hope he is on GYE, and I daven he will find it soon if he isn't. My heart foes out to his wife... It is possible that this info led to my fall, too, but I take full responsibility regardless.

By me it's mamash pinkt farkert. Each time I read/hear such a sad story (or sadder...) or how people struggle on their own, it's a big push for me to keep up my struggle.

Al kol punim. Dear Meir, chatzlocho.

I just recently learned (or better: read) the daily daf. The question was, if somebody has a hole in his pants so some hair from "zaken hatachton" are yoyze. is it erva? The rebbe who was asked answered: "saar saar" (hair hair) and rash"i explains: "nu hair, so what?". And I thought: "hmm..sounds like fell shmell"