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Re: Frum Guy with Gay Tendencies 03 May 2012 01:24 #136661

  • helplessjewboy
Thank you. I will get back at this with renewed vigor, thanks to all of you.

Esh Tamid Tukkad Al Hamizbeach Lo Tichbeh...

Joey

Re: Frum Guy with Gay Tendencies 03 May 2012 03:43 #136678

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Joey,
At a low point you where reaching out for others to help. It took a lot of courage to do that. From my own experience it's very helpful for overcoming ssa. I hope you took advantage of those who offered to help. If you didn't, just because you are feeling better doesn't mean you shouldn't take advantage. Getting outing of isolation and connecting with another is an important of overcoming lust issues in general and ssa in particular.

Hatzlacha,
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Re: Frum Guy with Gay Tendencies 11 Jun 2012 23:01 #139256

  • helplessjewboy
Hey everyone.

I just lost a battle.

Worse, I had just gone to the mikveh this morning.

Even worse, the filter team here at GYE have been ignoring me, and if I don't get in touch with them soon, I will have to pay a fine of $1500 or another MacBook Pro if I don't get mine fixed soon (kind of not allowed to download software unnecessarily... and they want it off so that they can fix the mac properly). Can someone get me in touch with the filter Gabbai's? I am in a world of trouble here.

On the other side, I have almost fully committed to the JONAH program. Just need to tweak out some problems and I will be on my way to recovery.

B"h, it all works out.

I need some strength. And reassurance that it will work. I've never actually heard of success stories for this kind of thing. Anybody have anything?

Joey

Re: Frum Guy with Gay Tendencies 12 Jun 2012 02:16 #139266

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Joey, welcome back!


it's great to hear that you are going to start a program with JONAH. I don't have any personal experience with it but I have heard from many people who have benefited greatly from it. Not everyone will achieve a "cure" and it takes a lot of hard work but it will definitely help lower the intensity of these desires. There are other guys here who have done it and they can tell you more.


But one important thing to keep in mind is that hand in hand with working on the SSA with therapy you need to work on the day to day of not lusting. That means strict Shmiras Einayim, guarding your thoughts from fantasy, and staying far away from anything inappropriate online. If you allow yourself to be caught up in lust you will just wind up attracted to what you are used to being drawn to.




BTW there is going to be a GYE phone group for SSA starting soon. It was announced in the chizuk email recently.

Announcement


Unfortunately, lust addiction can often lead to - or be interconnected with SSA (same sex attraction). Experience has shown us that about 20% of the guys on GYE struggle with SSA issues as well. We have a special page of resources for SSA over here.
8 Week Phone Group for Healing Unwanted Same-Sex Attractions Starting Soon!
This call will launch as soon as we have enough guys interested. Be in touch with yonatangye@gmail.com if you want to join. The time and day will be decided at a later date, based on majority.This call is an excellent opportunity for men with unwanted same-sex attractions to begin learning what steps they can take to achieve real inner change. Given by Jonathan H. - Life Coach and BA in Psychology - and expert in helping others embark on proper sexual orientation change techniques. The calls will focus on first understanding the underlying cause of your SSA and then will provide effective tools for creating a world for yourself where change is possible. The goal is to provide men with a clear vision of what this journey can look like and will jump-start long lasting change for the future. If you struggle with SSA, this is a once a week phone group that you don't want to miss.



Good luck with the computer and with the new program. Please keep in touch and let us know how its working for you.


KOMT!!!!
Gevura!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant


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Re: Frum Guy with Gay Tendencies 12 Jun 2012 14:30 #139290

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Hi Joey!
Good to hear from you and glad you're still taking up the struggle.
Please re-read the second paragraph in Gevura's post above.
Have a great clean day!
Alex

Re: Frum Guy with Gay Tendencies 12 Jun 2012 15:11 #139294

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Alex,

If it looked familiar, that's because I cribbed it from you! (I wish doing it was as easy as writing it)

Thanks for being here for us. You really do "get it".

Gevura!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant


My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: Frum Guy with Gay Tendencies 13 Jun 2012 15:01 #139380

  • helplessjewboy
Thanks Alex and Gevura,

I appreciate the help.

I apologize about anything I may have said or thought about the GYE filter gabbaim.

It is completely my fault that I didn't get their messages (let's just say that the spam inbox will always be checked now...).

I am sorry for accusing them of ignoring me. They have been doing their jobs properly; it is entirely my fault.

B"h, I replied and everything should work out now.

Thanks for all your help guys.

Joey

Re: Frum Guy with Gay Tendencies 13 Jun 2012 15:56 #139387

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Glad to hear you got that straightened out. Stick around and keep us posted.

Gevura!


!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant


My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends
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