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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 06:58 #114953

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chazak chazak wrote on 16 Aug 2011 21:48:

קידוש השם אתה צדיק

תודה, אבל למה? י
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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 13:48 #114977

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Hey out there!

I'm feeling a depression settling in! I think this might be normal for someone who's breaking free but this is the first time I've ever felt it this strongly. I'm over eating like crazy and I have no interest in the activities that I normally like doing. I'm not interested in planning any trips for Bein Hazmanim and doing fun stuff. Even important things, I'm pushing off and ignoring. This is very unlike me and it's scary. I'm mostly scared of falling back into shmutz to make me feel better.
So far, I've only been medicating with over-eating which is not terrible - I'd rather that over P&M any time - but I'd like some advice and reassurance from people if you guys can help.
thank you my friends,

KH
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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 14:37 #114983

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This is very normal, we all get this a few times during the time we get clean. Its reccomened that you spend sometime here on the forum, to post. Check out the fun threads here, yet, it can help change your mood. If you can connect to some people here by PM, Chat, talk, meet.

It will take some time, but, it will get better soon.

Keep on trucking. One day at a time.
Yes We Can!!!, Yes We Can!!!, Yes We Can!!!,
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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 16:18 #115006

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You got the YH on the run and he's fighting back. Trying to get you depressed. It keeps happening to me too, especially if I am under stress from work, the kids, etc.

Get out there and do something active, listen to some lebedike music, work on some sort of project.

I find that posting here also helps a lot, by giving chizuk to others I'm really talking to myself too.

KOT!!!!

Gevura!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 16:21 #115008

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bardichev wrote on 16 Aug 2011 01:34:

brew your own borboun


Man, you have a knack for making me LOL  ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D.
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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 16:23 #115010

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I once heard Rav Noach Weinberg ZT"L say that the best way to get someone out of a depression is to ask him to help you move furniture.  Get your mind into something else.  It's the best medicine.
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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 16:25 #115013

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gibbor120 wrote on 17 Aug 2011 16:23:

ask him to help you move furniture.


For someone like you who is constantly lifting weights, moving furniture is simple stuff....


(L'gabei Moshe. yir'eh milsah zutrasa hu!)
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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 16:25 #115014

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Bake your own Babkes?

!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant


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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 16:41 #115030

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Yosef Hatzadik wrote on 17 Aug 2011 16:25:

gibbor120 wrote on 17 Aug 2011 16:23:

ask him to help you move furniture.


For someone like you who is constantly lifting weights, moving furniture is simple stuff....


(L'gabei Moshe. yir'eh milsah zutrasa hu!)


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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 16:42 #115033

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Gevura ShebYesod wrote on 17 Aug 2011 16:25:

Bake your own Babkes?


... and then share some with me please.  Can you put in some extra chocolate?! YUM!
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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 17:29 #115052

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you got some great advice, KH, from Gibbor, Shteig and gevura

reach out to someone, a friend, a family member, virtually, do something, go for a run, walk, or ride, close the door and dance for 3 minutes, call a heimishe leasing company and ask if they can get you a monster truck with 8-foot wheels delivered by Friday

keep us posted please
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
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The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 18:12 #115064

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ZemirosShabbos wrote on 17 Aug 2011 17:29:

you got some great advice, KH, from Gibbor, Shteig and gevura

reach out to someone, a friend, a family member, virtually, do something, go for a run, walk, or ride, close the door and dance for 3 minutes, call a heimishe leasing company and ask if they can get you a monster truck with 8-foot wheels delivered by Friday

keep us posted please


Hey, now I have to put bigger wheels on mine!!!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל


"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant


My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends
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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 18:22 #115067

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:'(, :-\ ??? :D ;D

The above smileys represent my facial expressions,in order, spanning from before until after reading these last few posts...

thank you shteighecher, gevurashbyesod, gibbor120, yosefhatzadik and ZemirosShabbos!

Brothers, You're Osek Bmitzvah 

I'm gonna go for a run now even though I really don't feel like it. I'll post again soon!

S'iz doch altz hevel havalim, ein od milvado
S'iz doch altz hevel havalim, ein od milvado
ah ah ah ah ayyayay
ah ah ah ah ayyayay
ah ah ah ah ayyayay
ah ah ah yay yay!


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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 19:04 #115083

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enjoy your fun.
you asked why you are a tzadik.
we find in chazal that we compare people to give praise.
the gemoro says dovid hamelech said לא חסיד אני? שכל מלכי אומות העולם........................ ואני ידי מלוכלכות בדם ובשפיר ובשליא לטהר אשה לבעלה. so we see that we compare people and thats how we find out how special duvid is.
My brother most people with your YH are not on this forum. and are not working on them selfs. and you are here struglling and working bitter hard on the way out and i shudnt call you tzaddik.
צדיק אתה
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Re: Building up the Fort!(the post name will change as I do) 17 Aug 2011 19:18 #115093

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I've never tried this myself, but they say excersize  is really good from depression. Also, B-group vitamins, red meat and red wine. Take yourself out to lunch to a steakhouse, and then jog home.
Baby steps.
If the road is pulling you down, it's a sign that you are going uphill, so just press harder on the gas!

Have a great day - unless, of course, you made other plans.
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