Recovery isn't just about NOT acting-out
This past Shabbos afternoon I went out for a nice walk with my wife and children, even though my wife offered to take them by herself and let me rest.
Also, I joked around with my kids to put them to bed instead of just ordering them to go to sleep. I actually have a good sense of humor, but it's just too easy to forget to use it with your own kids.
Recovery isn't just about not acting out. It's about letting yourself enjoy life. When you get pleasure from the small things in life, when you don't sweat the small stuff, then you don't need to act out.