Monday, 13 February 2012

My Marriage Turned Around

by Yechiel (See all authors)

Reb Guard,

First of all thanks for all that you do on daily basis on behalf of Klal Yisroel.

In the past 2 weeks I've been in contact with Elya K on the hotline and b"h I've been clean for 10 days. But the most amazing change that has happened over the last 10 days has been my relationship with my wife. I used to have this subconscious resentment towards her, thinking that she was causing me slightly to turn to pornography based on her personality and moods. But after just one phone session with Elya, my marriage turned around. I've learned that this whole pornography issue is solely my responsibility, and my very supportive wife has been doing way more than her share in helping me get through this. I've come to appreciate her personality much more now, and I've also come to realize that her moods were a mere reflection of my feelings of subconscious resentment towards her that she was noticing. She really has changed in my eyes from a wife that (I thought) was turning me towards pornography to an Aishes Chayil that is supportive, understanding and a fan that wants nothing more than for me to overcome this.

I can go on and on about how positive I feel, but there is only that much that words can explain. It's an internal simcha that's been part of me for the past 10 days, from the moment I wake up until the moment I go to sleep.

Guys, please continue your AWESOME work and notify other men to realize that from the moment you take the burden onto your shoulders and off of your spouses, there is no obstacle to the love that you should be feeling in a healthy marriage.

Thanks,
Yechiel