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In some ways, I feel about lust the way I do about European governments... You see, Europe is kinda old and they've gone through many forms of governance over their many countries... like communism, monarchy, dictatorships, democracies, free governments, liberal governmen...

I was once looking at a picture of the great wall of China. Ever seen that thing? Like a never-ending snake-monster, winding its way over mountains and valleys for miles and miles and miles. Over 5,500 miles in all!Can you imagine being one of the slaves forced to build i...

I'd like to share my personal experience with dating. It's no secret that one of the main motivators that brought me to GYE in the first place, was the very simple point that I don't want to bring this into a marriage. Till I came here, I was in a bubble of delusion think...

For those who are unfamiliar with the "family life" of our lively forum, "7Up" is not just a another member; she is a GYE phenomenon! In her short time with us, she was promoted to "Global Moderator" and put in charge of the women's forum; she became known as the GYE Reb...

As lust addicts, we often feel torn into two. On the one hand our neshama craves kedusha, while our yetzer hara keeps dragging us to the 'other side'. It reminds me of what Rivka imeinu must have felt while carrying Eisav and Yaakov. While obviously we are not carrying "t...

Today I reached the BIG 90 and I am quite excited. I never dreamed I could go on for 90 days without a fall, but thanks to GYE's combined forces I made it. That menuval!! Even on the last day he tried to make me fall. In previous situations he could have been successful, ...

"Kedusha" is one of GYE's most active members. He is always looking for ways to help promote GYE in the religious world, and to help other members grow. Just today, he posted a new incentive to help struggling members reach 90 days (see this post). And he was also the one...

After a few weeks break, Uri posted last week: Sorry I haven't posted here in a while. I was at Rav Shlachter and today we discussed "feelings". First, let's review the three basics of life:- Fear - Control - Trust According to his opinion (and I challenged it no end till...

I had a fall again a few days ago and I was fed up. I just couldn't figure out what I was doing right when I had my recent streak of 42 days, and why I have not been able to come close to that since. Yesterday, it hit me a little bit. It's no great chiddush, it just final...

  The Falling Leaves I huddled in my jacket As the wind began to blow I felt the leaves crunch underfoot So dead, so lost, so low I watched as more leaves fell And they tumbled to the ground The people would all step on them Their loss would then resound Yellow brown and ...

"Chizkiyahu" writes: For a while, I thought that the battle was simply yetzer tov vs. yetzer hara. I thought that if I simply strengthened my yetzer tov by learning more Torah, doing more mitzvos, etc. that the yetzer hara would simply fall away on its own. Instead, the y...

I'm honored to be here, between people that are striving for tikkun yesod - the foundation of our holy nation! I was thinking yesterday about how much I davened for shmiras habris over the years, and how Hashem really listened to my prayers in the strongest way possible b...

Last Motzai Shabbos I felt that my life was over unless I read the handbooks, so I read them both through and through (in one sitting, LOL) and they gave me the push to start the journey. So here I am posting on my 5th day! It's just great. Life is so wonderful when lust...

The program doesn't tell us how to stop - we had done that a thousand and one times - it shows us how to keep from starting again. We had it backwards; before, we always wanted the therapist, spouse, or God to do the stopping for us - to fix us. Now, we stop; and then, in...

Upon reaching 90 days clean and earning his place on the Wall of Honor ClearEyes posted today: "Happy 90th clean day to me. Thank you Reb Guard, Group #3 and all the holy members of GYE for making this dream a reality. Thank you all for saving my life!!!". ClearEyes has b...

RATM ("Rage at the Machine") posted on the forum: Guard talks a lot about "lust" being an addiction like alcoholism or drug abuse, and in many ways it is (and the tools to defeat those can be used to defeat this). But in one important way it is different: With this diseas...

Ok, I have a problem and I'm finally admitting it. I am a 'good Jewish boy' - married, learn every day, I am makpid about davening, halachah etc. etc. except that I look at porn on the net. I have prayed to HaShem many many times to help me overcome this - but I still fee...

I saw the following idea in a Sefer once, and it helps me to keep strong so I thought I might post it... The Jewish concept of Gehinnom is that after the soul leaves the body and ascends to the spiritual worlds, it encounters a fearsome being: The person it COULD HAVE bee...