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It took time It wasn't easy Many tried and failed Some gave up hope it would EVER happen We kept trying, to no avail but finally.... We killed Osama Bin Laden. So too.... It takes time It's not easy Sometimes we fail We feel like were are hopeless Some give up that it w...

I now rejoice with my inner animal: and boy is he big! This 'super passion' that I feel, is a most wondrous thing. Of course, acting out is out of the question: period.So now what? All this energy must go 'somewhere'.Here comes responsibility and a schedule.The yetzer is ...

"Any yid can reach to a point where any 'not good' is acharey, behind him. Then his avoda can be in the realm of kedoshim" Other one-liners that Yosef C. sent me: It's a high anxiety time of year... I'm a gonner without Hashem"s help, and I'm beyond grateful that He's 10...

I just wanted to say that I am really happy when you put in links to excerpts from the shiurim of R' Avigdor Miller ztz"l. I used to listen to his shiurim non-stop, 2 - 3 a day, and got so much chizuk from them, when times were really hard for me. So, I want to let everyo...

Hello all, it's been a long time. I just want to share some more ideas with all of you. In my battle with this, I realized there was a void in me. When I gave up lust it felt like I had given up my 'best friend'. Rabbi Twerski told me to fill that void with Torah (see thi...

I heard on Shabbos, "Ha chodesh ha zeh l'chem" is gematria Mashiach ben David. It doesn't say l'chah (singular) rather l'chem (plural). With the power of us (davka) together, with friends in avoda together, we can have our personal geula. I've learned so much from the mee...

The Metzora's punishment is isolation! Isolation is a punishment! Let's stop punishing ourselves and get out of isolation!

You're planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting. After months of eage...

V'assei ess chatascha v'ess olasecha v'chapeir ba'adcha uv'ad ha'am. (9:7) Quotes from Dov: "Hashem led me to Fall with an aveira so that I should realize how low I am & get a jolt. That is what got me into Recovery." "When my Recovery includes Step 12, I'm making my ...

What is needed in Klal Yisrael today is not merely prevention of addiction, but a whole area of avodas Hashem through which a person, by defeating his yetzer hara daily, can be zocheh to great z'chuyos and to be poel yeshuos. In serving Hashem, there really is no such thi...

On the one hand, we can't fight the YH ourselves and the only true way to succeed is by surrendering the victory over to Hashem. But, at the same time, we can't just continue to do what we've been doing and say "Look Hashem, I'm in your hands now so don't have complaints ...

Maybe only He has the answer for you. We only have to listen. Isn't easy to listen. Maybe it's not a pretty answer. But you know in your heart that it's true. And you're honest enough to know you really really need help badly with this not so pretty picture. This n...

I'm working the 12 steps, on the phone calls, really trying to make some changes, but they're slow to come. But I'm starting to realize that it's part of a long process - slowly, I'm being given the tools to help beat this. I don't have them all yet, but I'm slowly learni...

I can say that since getting my problems under control, my marraige has improved so much and my life is so much better that I am now now controlling myself because I want to be happy. My selfishness tells me to control myself because that results in my being happier. What...

Realizing and admitting the severity of your problem is a good step towards recovery. You are recognizing that it's not just a little difficulty with shmiras eineyim. We can't recover until we first realize we have a major problem from which we NEED to recover.All that st...

Boruch Hashem for Shabbos, I really need it. I saw a wonderful dvar torah from Reb Zilberstein (who I consider my rebbe, even though I've never met him) on Parshas Ki Sisa (in Borchi Nofshi). If I had time I would translate and copy it over word for word since it is so f...

I've been reading a lot about recent Gedolim and it occurred to me that the tools needed to overcome lust addiction are exactly the same as those exhibited by our greatest Gedolim. Simple acceptance that we're not meant to "have it all". You can't act out in the morning...

Welcome! You will stop acting out, but you may never stop being vulnerable to acting out. You will learn what's for you to do and what's for Hashem to do (the age old hishtadlut-vs. bitachon issue). You will grow close to "HKBH, so close. And then when He turns His Face,...