Q: I am 24 years old and in shidduchim and I feel lost in the whole parshah, how to deal with my lust issues legabay Shidduchim. I don't know if this is something you could help me with but I am in need of guidance and I don't have where to get it from.
A: There are two delicate issues when it comes to dating. (1) How long one should be clean before dating (2) Disclosure regarding your past struggle when dating. The advice would have to take into consideration many factors, such as how bad the addiction was, how often were the falls, how long you're clean for, how strong is your recovery, etc...
Here are some useful articles and shiurim that can give you guidance regarding disclosure when dating:
- Download an MP3 talk by Dov called: "Dating - How to tell her/him about my problem"
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