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Visitor 53991565 11:04 PM I've been clean 17 days But I'm a bit stuck. Visitor 53991565 11:05 PM I am not at all attracted to my wife. Honest. Visitor 53991565 11:06 PM She's gained weight. A lot. What am I to do? Everyone else's wife - yes, this is the addict talking - s...

Sexual addiction or hypersexuality is defined as a dysfunctional preoccupation with sexual fantasy, often in combination with the obsessive pursuit of casual or non-intimate sex; pornography; compulsive masturbation; romantic intensity and objectified partner sex for a pe...

Masturbation is a funny word. It might make you giggle thinking about the first time you got caught by your parents or caught your little brother in the act. It can be a great way to release tension, or a way to stay satisfied when you can’t be with a partner. For most of...

Being in a relationship with a sex addict does bring up the question of do I stay or leave? These questions are legitimate. In this exercise, I want to expose you to some options you may or may not have thought of before. 1. Stay and stay sick - This option is taken by ...

As with any addiction, the denial of sex addiction is a powerful obstacle to recovery. Sex addiction recovery has been described as a grief process. When we let go of an addictive drug or behavior we are letting go of a coping skill that has served us well in the past. T...

One of GYE's supporters has asked us to ask our members to please daven for יוסף בן פייגא רבקה who has a serious infection and is very sick. In the zechus of their support, specifically in advertising our services for those who need help, may this חולה have a רפואה שלימה!

The new psychology buzz word of this century is mindfulness. Mindfulness means concentrating on one thing at a time, just for concentration sake. Mindfulness can take many forms, from meditation to just sitting and focusing on what you’re doing, looking at, listening to, ...

I think somewhere in the holy books (maybe Rambam) it says that you know that you actually have done tshuvo is when the same situation arises, you withstand the temptation this time. I'm sure Machshova Tova can find the chapter and verse and the exact loshoin, in fact I w...

Dear GYE,The 9th of Av was my one year anniversary of not spilling z"l. And that is the same day I came to GYE. So I am happy about that milestone, because I lived it every single day, one day at a time. And because I don't remember such a long span of time being clean in...

As you all know, GYE advertises heavily on frum websites in order to reach out to our fellow brothers who are struggling. We are building now a new advertising campaign with "Google Adwords" to try and reach even more Yidden. When someone enters a search on Google for a...

If you are feeling an overwhelming lust to view women's bodies (a common disease among lust addicts) this 4.5 minute video clip from the Holocaust can be used a last resort "Turn-Off" to wake us up to the emptiness of flesh-worship. Click here to watch a horrible vi...

If you give me to look at a woman,I may not see everything I want to see at first glance.So I may ask to look again. When I look again, I may think she is attractive, and if I find her attractive, I'll want to sexualize her. Once I've sexualized her, I'll want a fantasy ...

Years before I came to SA and recovery, someone showed me the 12 steps. I had a read of them and, to be honest, they went right over my head. Sure, I believed "in a Power greater than myself". What kind of a frum Jew was I if I hadn't "turned my will over to G-d"? I went...

I want us to reflect on the demise of guys. Guys are flaming out academically; they're wiping out socially with girls, and intimately with women. Girls outperform boys now at every level, from elementary school to graduate school. What's the evidence of wiping out? First,...

I can't tell you how much I appreciate what you do! I am not and never was a real addict. My problem was only when I found myself with the yetzer hara right in my face (alone in front of unfiltered internet, business trip in a hotel alone, etc). BH since I joined GYE I h...

Step One of the SA program is: "We admitted we were powerless over lust, that our lives have become unmanageable". So what does powerless actually mean? When I first got into the program, I was taught by a fellow member that what we mean by powerless is that I can't use...

No one can deny that pornography is not aimed to be watched by children. It builds an unhealthy and unrealistic image of sexual relationships and, if seen at the age of 12 and younger, can be a cause of kids growing up as sex addicts and sexual deviants. In this article ...