Saturday, 23 January 2016

What should I tell someone who is triggered?

What should I tell someone who is triggered?

I was on the GYE website when some chatted with me and said that he is triggered. This was the first time someone else complained to me about their situation, since usually I am the complainer. However, I am still new to this, I wasn't sure what I was supposed to do and what ideas to give him. So I just told him to call a friend, or read some good jokes on the forum to help his urge pass and chatted with him. I also offerd him some words of encouragement. However, I had to stop chatting with him since it became late. I felt bad and hoped that I was giving him the right ideas to help him overcome the urge. I would like to know what would be the best way in the future to help someone through their triggers. I hope that he did not fall due to lack of my good helping him through this.


GYE Responds:

You did well, don't worry about it. You should never feel it is your job to "stop" or "save" anyone from falling. That is something each person must learn on their own.The main thing is having friends to chat with and get out of isolation. In the future, just assure the person that everything will be "Ok", i.e. that they won't die if they don't give in. Sometimes, that's all a person needs to hear from another struggler.