We don't need the "release."
I go through my day now, B"H, without much of a struggle. But, when I get into bed the urge to masturbate is overwhelming. I wish it would come out every few days while I am sleeping, to release the pressure but that just doesn't happen. I exercise, distract myself by reading etc, and even drink some wine once in a while to knock me out - what else can I do? It's torturous!
Thanks, In Need of Release
Dear In Need,
Don't worry, the body automatically re-absorbs the semen build-up, so there's no need to release it. I understand it's hard, but this is what separates the men from the boys! Hashem challenges us to be strong and pays us back a thousand-fold in both this world and the next.
The best thing to do is to just try and fall asleep! If your thoughts are going wild, try to distract yourself with thinking about something you enjoy. Let's say, for example, you always wished you could fly or have your own little space ship. Whenever you start getting arousing thoughts, try to switch your thoughts over to fantasies about flying in your own little spaceship... until you fall asleep.
If that still doesn't help, try to focus your love--and lust--for Hashem by telling yourself that He is the source of all good and pleasure and beauty... Try to imagine yourself in His warm embrace as you drift off to sleep.