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TOPIC: Motivational Boosters 1789 Views
Motivational Boosters 24 Jan 2020 09:40 #346933
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If you feel that you need an extra push to help you decide whether you are ready to quit, you might want to try some of the following ideas. These techniques may be helpful in the tipping the scale towards change.
The most fundamental tools are the Cost Benefit Analysis (CBA), and Exploring Values and Roles. It's recommended that you try those first. This thread will discuss some lesser known techniques that can help you make a decision. Check your frequency Getting accurate information about how often you watch porn can give you greater awareness about your behavior, and can challenge your assumptions about the intensity and frequency of your porn use . For the next week or so, keep a record of your porn usage on a physical or digital piece of paper. The table might have the following columns:
Getting more information Usually focusing on the negatives of porn is counterproductive, because it keeps you focused on the problem rather than on the solution. But during the contemplation stage it can actually be extremely helpful. Learning about the effects of porn might change your perception of the pros and cons of porn, and can tilt your decisional balance towards change.
Leverage your emotions Try imagining how your life will look like in the coming years if you don't change. Imagine tough situations, throughout your life where you'll suffer the consequences of watching porn. Be realistic about what might happen. Imagine vividly how continued porn usage (for example) and it’s side effects will impact your relationship with your spouse, your children and your career. Imagine the lost opportunities of actualizing your most cherished dreams and life goals because porn has embezzled your time and focus. Then once your done, imagine how it might feel if you quit. Would you feel much happier? Would you feel more confident? Would you take on new goals? Would it have a positive impact on other areas of your life? Would your relationship improve?Often the reason we don't change is because we focus on the short term vs. the long term. The problems we'll have later in life due to watching porn seem too far away. This exercise can help us feel these consequences more vividly and arouse your emotions. One our emotions are aroused, we might feel ready to finally quit. Record Your Thoughts Another technique to arouse your emotions is do a quick video or voice recording each time you finish watching porn and talk passionately about how it made you feel. At the end of the week, listen to the recordings, and check your decisional balance worksheet to see if there’s anything to add.
After a little while, you'll be able to look back and see why you're doing what you're doing. By becoming more aware of your motives, it can help you get the clarity you need to make a decision. For example, you might notice, that very often you're watching because your stressed or tired, not because of pure lust. You then might come to the conclusion that if it's mostly due to stress, there are far better ways of dealing with then by continuing the current behavior.  Warning: Spoiler!
Tip: Say Goodbye Write a goodbye letter to your problem or old way of being. Put your heart into the letter. Explain the harm that porn has caused you and others and then how leaving it will improve your life. |
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Re: Motivational Boosters 24 Jan 2020 16:01 #346939
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MenachemGYE wrote on 24 Jan 2020 09:40:
If you feel that you need an extra push to help you decide whether you are ready to quit, you might want to try some of the following ideas. These techniques may be helpful in the tipping the scale towards change. The most fundamental tools are the Cost Benefit Analysis (CBA), and Exploring Values and Roles. It's recommended that you try those first. This thread will discuss some lesser known techniques that can help you make a decision. Check your frequency Getting accurate information about how often you watch porn can give you greater awareness about your behavior, and can challenge your assumptions about the intensity and frequency of your porn use . For the next week or so, keep a record of your porn usage on a physical or digital piece of paper. The table might have the following columns:
Getting more information Usually focusing on the negatives of porn is counterproductive, because it keeps you focused on the problem rather than on the solution. But during the contemplation stage it can actually be extremely helpful. Learning about the effects of porn might change your perception of the pros and cons of porn, and can tilt your decisional balance towards change.
Leverage your emotions Try imagining how your life will look like in the coming years if you don't change. Imagine tough situations, throughout your life where you'll suffer the consequences of watching porn. Be realistic about what might happen. Imagine vividly how continued porn usage (for example) and it’s side effects will impact your relationship with your spouse, your children and your career. Imagine the lost opportunities of actualizing your most cherished dreams and life goals because porn has embezzled your time and focus. Then once your done, imagine how it might feel if you quit. Would you feel much happier? Would you feel more confident? Would you take on new goals? Would it have a positive impact on other areas of your life? Would your relationship improve?Often the reason we don't change is because we focus on the short term vs. the long term. The problems we'll have later in life due to watching porn seem too far away. This exercise can help us feel these consequences more vividly and arouse your emotions. One our emotions are aroused, we might feel ready to finally quit. Record Your Thoughts Another technique to arouse your emotions is do a quick video or voice recording each time you finish watching porn and talk passionately about how it made you feel. At the end of the week, listen to the recordings, and check your decisional balance worksheet to see if there’s anything to add.
After a little while, you'll be able to look back and see why you're doing what you're doing. By becoming more aware of your motives, it can help you get the clarity you need to make a decision. For example, you might notice, that very often you're watching because your stressed or tired, not because of pure lust. You then might come to the conclusion that if it's mostly due to stress, there are far better ways of dealing with then by continuing the current behavior. Warning: Spoiler!
Tip: Say Goodbye Write a goodbye letter to your problem or old way of being. Put your heart into the letter. Explain the harm that porn has caused you and others and then how leaving it will improve your life. Thank you. The goodbye letter really speaks to me. As a matter of fact, I have done it..... Warning: Spoiler! |
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Re: Motivational Boosters 24 Jan 2020 16:22 #346940
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MenachemGYE wrote on 24 Jan 2020 09:40:
If you feel that you need an extra push to help you decide whether you are ready to quit, you might want to try some of the following ideas. These techniques may be helpful in the tipping the scale towards change. The most fundamental tools are the Cost Benefit Analysis (CBA), and Exploring Values and Roles. It's recommended that you try those first. This thread will discuss some lesser known techniques that can help you make a decision. Check your frequency Getting accurate information about how often you watch porn can give you greater awareness about your behavior, and can challenge your assumptions about the intensity and frequency of your porn use . For the next week or so, keep a record of your porn usage on a physical or digital piece of paper. The table might have the following columns:
Getting more information Usually focusing on the negatives of porn is counterproductive, because it keeps you focused on the problem rather than on the solution. But during the contemplation stage it can actually be extremely helpful. Learning about the effects of porn might change your perception of the pros and cons of porn, and can tilt your decisional balance towards change.
Leverage your emotions Try imagining how your life will look like in the coming years if you don't change. Imagine tough situations, throughout your life where you'll suffer the consequences of watching porn. Be realistic about what might happen. Imagine vividly how continued porn usage (for example) and it’s side effects will impact your relationship with your spouse, your children and your career. Imagine the lost opportunities of actualizing your most cherished dreams and life goals because porn has embezzled your time and focus. Then once your done, imagine how it might feel if you quit. Would you feel much happier? Would you feel more confident? Would you take on new goals? Would it have a positive impact on other areas of your life? Would your relationship improve?Often the reason we don't change is because we focus on the short term vs. the long term. The problems we'll have later in life due to watching porn seem too far away. This exercise can help us feel these consequences more vividly and arouse your emotions. One our emotions are aroused, we might feel ready to finally quit. Record Your Thoughts Another technique to arouse your emotions is do a quick video or voice recording each time you finish watching porn and talk passionately about how it made you feel. At the end of the week, listen to the recordings, and check your decisional balance worksheet to see if there’s anything to add.
After a little while, you'll be able to look back and see why you're doing what you're doing. By becoming more aware of your motives, it can help you get the clarity you need to make a decision. For example, you might notice, that very often you're watching because your stressed or tired, not because of pure lust. You then might come to the conclusion that if it's mostly due to stress, there are far better ways of dealing with then by continuing the current behavior. Warning: Spoiler!
Tip: Say Goodbye Write a goodbye letter to your problem or old way of being. Put your heart into the letter. Explain the harm that porn has caused you and others and then how leaving it will improve your life. Really great stuff! keep them coming! |
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