Dov wrote about the workshop (before it began on March 9, 2015) as follows:
- Are you a sex or lust addict who is willing to do whatever it takes to live free?
- Have you found the steps to be a waste of time?
- Do you know the 12 steps well but still feel they don't speak to you in a practical way?
- Are you a non-addict upset with your own pesky desires for schmutz and curious about the 12 steps?
- Are you frustrated about your inability to stop acting-out with lust in a way that addicts seem to use their drugs?
- Are you tired of these prying questions?
As a recovering addict, I will be sharing each of the steps on the calls based on simple honesty and openness about myself, my disease, and my experience using these steps one day at a time as a Jew, husband and father. So let's work off our Purim booze and bring our most embarrassing questions and worst complaints about the steps (and maybe about ourselves, too) Monday-Thursday March 9-19th. (After all, Pesach will still be a few weeks away and our wives seem to be doing fine without us, as usual...)
The general agenda will be to share how the steps work as a single, simple unit to help sick people get well be"H.
Talk 1 - Step 1 and the 12 Step culture: Who needs any of it? Who needs all of it? (This call will be followed by an invitation for anyone who wishes, to share their short, written, 1st step on a private PIN # we will arrange).
Talk 2 - Steps 2 and 3: What's missing from these steps for frum Jews, and why aren't these steps enough on their own for addicts in recovery?
Talk 3 - Steps 4-7 and the answer to last week's question, be"H, and why step 4 alone doesn't solve any problems.
Talk 4 - Steps 8-10 and how they are part of step 7 and the way to get and keep a 3rd step.
Talk 5 - Steps 11 and 12 and finally something a little religious! Why wait so long for something so good? And why wait till after all these steps to start sponsoring others?
Talk 6 - Step 12 1/2? A discussion about how being frum can help recovery or hurt it - and also about how being frum can help - or hurt - avodas Hashem, of all things.
Nobody will be asked to use their real names when sharing on the call, as this line is obviously not a secure one due to the PIN being available online. But all who wish, are encouraged to speak up in a way that keeps the decorum comfortable for all. It is hoped that all of us keep the 11th and 12th traditions of AA on this call and do not ever break anyone else's anonymity in any way. And that is the only way calls like this - and any recovery groups - can ever survive and succeed.
Any suggestions/questions about the call can be sent to my email
wequithiding@gmail.com- please type "WORKSHOP" in the subject.
Thanks, and G-d bless all of us, addicts or not!
- Dov