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TOPIC: Been there done that... not really 18403 Views

Re: Been there done that... not really 16 May 2011 13:53 #106039

laagvokeles	you serious? he publishes his pic???? i dont believe it
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Re: Been there done that... not really 16 May 2011 13:59 #106041

shteeble OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 2024 Karma: 30	That's as much HIS picture as HIS name is Bardichev.
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Re: Been there done that... not really 16 May 2011 14:02 #106043

laagvokeles	oh
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Re: Been there done that... not really 16 May 2011 20:02 #106081

geshertzarmeod Current streak: 8 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Like a bridge over troubled water. Posts: 595 Karma: 3	sorry Reb Yid, tzaddik90 is my man! speaking of which, where is he? hey tzaddik! drop a line and say hi! we miss you over here!
	ישראל אע"פ שחטא ישראל הוא If you're connected above, you won't fall down below - Reb Shlomo ולבי חלל בקרבי לולא האמנתי לראות בטוב ה' בארץ חיים Last Edit: by .

Re: Been there done that... not really 16 May 2011 20:10 #106083

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	hi Gesher, mazel tov on your milestone and may you never feel overconfident and may we all grow closer to HKB"H today. if you read tzadik90's thread it seems he is taking a break from posting for a bit.
	Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise ~Inna beshem ZS Give, Forgive ~Cordnoy The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting. ~TZ Last Edit: by .

Re: Been there done that... not really 16 May 2011 20:16 #106085

geshertzarmeod Current streak: 8 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Like a bridge over troubled water. Posts: 595 Karma: 3	thanks zem all the best to you! thanks for the headsup on tzaddik i gave up reading his thread my head spins trying to follow it
	ישראל אע"פ שחטא ישראל הוא If you're connected above, you won't fall down below - Reb Shlomo ולבי חלל בקרבי לולא האמנתי לראות בטוב ה' בארץ חיים Last Edit: by .

Re: Been there done that... not really 05 Nov 2011 20:32 #124346

geshertzarmeod
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I know I know this thread has been dead since mid-May. But I feel this is the best place to post what I need to say.
Last night, Shabbos Parshas Lech Lecha I finally spilled the beans to my wife. Again I reiterate that I dont have porn issues so I felt it was safe, no, necessary to bring my wife on board. Lately shmiras einayim has become increasingly difficult and I felt that I needed to sock the YH big time. The only real stressor that still existed was the secrecy of it all. Add to that, the fact that some GYE chevra have been calling me, it was getting too difficult to hide. Not to mention the fact that many people are very big on telling the spouse.
Well....
She was really good about it, very supportive and unerstanding. She's great!
She was just upset / hurt that I suffered in silence for 20 years.
I tried to explain that I didnt have the keilim to deal with this earlier and only felt comfortable talking about it and admitting it after being on the forum for over 260 days.
Anyhow BH all is good. We talked alot and cleared up a bunch of garbage that has been getting in the way. All in all it was a good move.
I dont know if anyone ever noticed the text under my avatar used to say "Like a bridge troubled over water" (a play on words from an old song in my youth) expressing my troubled state that I was in. Now its changed to the real words, "Like a bridge over troubled water." expresing my feeling of being much stronger and solid in my growth.
Thanks again to GYE and all those who have given me support.

ישראל אע"פ שחטא ישראל הוא
If you're connected above, you won't fall down below - Reb Shlomo
ולבי חלל בקרבי
לולא האמנתי לראות בטוב ה' בארץ חיים

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Re: Been there done that... not really 06 Nov 2011 01:47 #124356

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Gesher!!
Nice to hear from you again!!
I am SOOOO happy to hear that you finally told your wife. It is not easy to do, but I found it to be so liberating it was wonderful. Isn't it amazing how great the wife can be? To forgive and move on and only regret not being able to help sooner? Not all wives can do that so guys like you and me must be very thankful to them, and of course to Hashem who gave us them. May this be the last step in a lasting recovery!!!
Hatzlocha,
Reb Yid

I am special
I was chosen for this special mission.
I must succeed.
Klal Yisroel needs me.
Hashem needs me.
Chizuk From the Parsha www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=3456.0
Letter From YH www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?action=dlattach;topic=3445.0;attach=1631

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Re: Been there done that... not really 06 Nov 2011 06:53 #124382

geshertzarmeod Current streak: 8 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Like a bridge over troubled water. Posts: 595 Karma: 3	Ah Reb Yid! You are music to my ears! you are so right!
	ישראל אע"פ שחטא ישראל הוא If you're connected above, you won't fall down below - Reb Shlomo ולבי חלל בקרבי לולא האמנתי לראות בטוב ה' בארץ חיים Last Edit: by .

Re: Been there done that... not really 06 Nov 2011 13:56 #124392

Reb Yid OFFLINE Gold Boarder TKO the YH Posts: 274 Karma: 10	You obviously never heard me sing!!!! :-\
	I am special I was chosen for this special mission. I must succeed. Klal Yisroel needs me. Hashem needs me. Chizuk From the Parsha www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=3456.0 Letter From YH www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?action=dlattach;topic=3445.0;attach=1631 Last Edit: by .

Re: Been there done that... not really 23 Nov 2011 21:42 #126575

geshertzarmeod Current streak: 8 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Like a bridge over troubled water. Posts: 595 Karma: 3	Baruch Hashem just proved to myself that Im for real! Made it thru a long trip away from home, with HASHEM by my side at all times. Coming home, feeling good! Of course it goes without saying that its due to GYE and the chevra, so Im not going to say that, although i just did. ???
	ישראל אע"פ שחטא ישראל הוא If you're connected above, you won't fall down below - Reb Shlomo ולבי חלל בקרבי לולא האמנתי לראות בטוב ה' בארץ חיים Last Edit: by .

Re: Been there done that... not really 23 Nov 2011 21:48 #126576

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Welcome back, Gesher!

KUTGW!!!!

Gevura!

!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant

My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

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Re: Been there done that... not really 23 Nov 2011 22:06 #126583

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Great Job Gesher.....

Coffee Ice cream at your door

courtesy of gye

if you don't see it when you get home

that means someone chapped it up

oibazoi head over to the gye chat room for some cold hard double dipped donuts

just watch out for that error 500 guy

he kind of sneaks up on you....

gevaaaaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhgggggggggggggggggg

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Re: Been there done that... not really 23 Nov 2011 22:40 #126595

Reb Yid OFFLINE Gold Boarder TKO the YH Posts: 274 Karma: 10	Great work!! That is an awesome feeling. Just a word of caution: Don't let the euphoria of "being real" carry you away. if you let down your guard, the YH will come charging at full speed. Rejoice in your accomplishments, but don't lose sight of your vulnerability. And Keep It Up!!! Hatzlocha!! Reb Yid
	I am special I was chosen for this special mission. I must succeed. Klal Yisroel needs me. Hashem needs me. Chizuk From the Parsha www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=3456.0 Letter From YH www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?action=dlattach;topic=3445.0;attach=1631 Last Edit: by .

Re: Been there done that... not really 23 Nov 2011 22:49 #126597

ZemirosShabbos OFFLINE Platinum Boarder pass the compote Posts: 6153 Karma: 72	Great to hear, gesher! yishtabach shmo la'ad! imagine how Eisav felt after he finished his soup and Yakov had something to show le'netzach netzachim. you upgraded from shopping in the Dollar Store (where everything is worth exactly $1) to shopping in Saks Fifth Avenue. Ashrecha and as Reb Yid wisely said: past performance is not a guarantee of future results
	Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise ~Inna beshem ZS Give, Forgive ~Cordnoy The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting. ~TZ Last Edit: by .