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Re: I'm gonna do it this time 24 Apr 2025 14:26 #434952

  • balancedfox70
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Hi friends, since Chol Hamoed time I've been dealing with a lot of constant urges. Yesterday it got much worse, constant fantasizing. 

But when I realized the sheker of the YH it helped me immensely, the YH was telling me that once the urges start and keep getting worse it wont stop until I get the release my body needs. So I may as well just let myself act out. There's no point in fighting it.

This is the biggest lie out there. Our body isn't a pressure cooker that at some point will explode. Its not inevitable that if I have an urge than I have to act on it. If I ignore it, than it'll diminish.

Which is exactly what happened, I tried to ignore it as much as possible, reminding myself that I dont do this anymore. I woke up today feeling much better. Even though yesterday I was parked outside some unsavory places...

Yesterday I had a tayvah, but today I don't. This is how our life goes we have tayvahs, its ok to. It wouldnt be ok if we didnt!

KOMT


Right on as always! Couldn't agree more.

Sometimes I feel that it's just another bodily necessity. And so I eat, drink and sleep... and then I do this. And by not doing it I am causing a deficiency to myself and my body, so I may as well act out now before it gets even worse.

I tell myself from time to time that this is only external and will pass on eventually and then presto; It does!

Keep up the good work and don't stop inspiring yourself and the oilam as well!

"Yesterday is history,
Tomorrow is a mystery,
Today is a gift,
That's why they call it the present"
#ODAAT!

Here are my threads:
guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/433015-Just-starting-out

guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/433933-Tired-Wife

Feel free to reach out.
My email address is: balancedfox70@gmail.com
Last Edit: 24 Apr 2025 14:40 by balancedfox70.

Re: I'm gonna do it this time 24 Apr 2025 15:15 #434957

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Shalom Brother Mendy,
It's good to hear from you!

I don't remember the exact words or where it is quoted, but I think it's a well-known text (BH my memory is improving post all the brain-rotting activities I used to do, but it seems it's a slow process). 

There is a small eiver that a man has. Feed it and it will become hungry. Starve it and it will be satiated.

One thing that this means is that if you allow your cravings to dictate your choices, then you relinquish control reacting to stimuli. I have to do all the things, and there is never an end to the things.

Starving it means I don't let it have whatever it wants. I can say no. I choose when, where, and how. You live assertively and deliberately, not passively along for the ride.

Even when things are really tough, and we might make a poor choice, own it. No one makes us do anything. Accepting responsibility is an essential step towards internal change and being able to stop the thought that anything is inevitable. 
:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!

Hatzlacha and Kol Tov
Today is yesterday's tomorrow.
The yetzarim a person has the most trouble dealing with are his most powerful God-given tools for developing his potential and achieving shleimus.
It doesn't matter how big the number is, only that today it is going up by one.

Please feel free to reach out. I'd appreciate connecting with you (via GYE, email, or phone - whatever floats your boat)
A little about me: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/412971-I-Want-to-Help-Others
Last Edit: 24 Apr 2025 15:17 by BenHashemBH.

Re: I'm gonna do it this time 24 Apr 2025 15:35 #434962

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....................Actually

פ"נ
אברהם שלמה בן חיים מענדיל ע"ה
מת בחצי ימיו מתוך חלאים רעים וקשים וקבלם באהבה
מחלייו היו שלא הוציא זרע לבטלה אחר הפגשתו עם GYE
זה גרם לו צער קשה וחולי רע שגרם מיתתו
נפטר מתוך שם טוב ה' אדר ה' תשפ"ה
תנצב"ה


I couldnt resist, BH. Seeing this written out drives your point home....
We're in this struggle together; feel free to reach out! 
Muttel15@gmail.com

Feel free to call/text! (908) 251-9590 (google)

Check out my thread here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/413043-My-ENTIRE-story#413043
Last Edit: 24 Apr 2025 15:36 by Muttel.
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